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<blockquote data-quote="Origami" data-source="post: 646803" data-attributes="member: 18099"><p>daughter in law had asked difficult child to come over to put the kids to bed last night, and he came in just a few minutes before their bedtime. He came in the living room and sat down with us. He said, "I wanted to say I'm sorry that I did drugs in your house." I said thanks for the apology. He then told us that his court case (for heroin possession) was settled yesterday and he got 2 years of probation. He said he'll be evaluated by somebody today and is going to tell them the truth about his drug addiction so he'll get court-mandated treatment. He said he lied when he was arrested before (over 3 years ago) so didn't get any treatment. </p><p></p><p>About this time in the conversation, my husband woke up from his easy-chair catnap, and I told him what difficult child just said. He said "That's good," and proceeded to ask if he wanted to move back in! daughter in law said, "No, he doesn't," and difficult child said he doesn't think it would be a good idea for him to live with us again because he was too comfortable doing drugs here (??!!). He has made arrangements to stay with a co-worker until he can rent an apartment, and has talked to his boss about his probation check-ins, etc. </p><p></p><p>He said he wants to get better because he doesn't want to lose his job, kids, family, etc. daughter in law got mad when he said that because he didn't lead off with "kids," but I said I felt like it all goes together because he can't take care of his kids without a job. I know she resents the fact that he's going to get an apartment no problem while she's scrambling trying to piece her paltry income together for something. I hope difficult child can see fit to help her out with that, but I'm not sure what they're working out. I would say it's none of my business, except that I would like to see daughter in law and the grandkids find a livable arrangement. My daughter said she's considering sharing an apartment with them if she can handle it financially by this summer.</p><p></p><p>Anyway, I'm not getting my hopes up too high, but this is literally the first time I've heard him even admit he has a problem or that he wants to quit the drugs. He said the conditions of his probation include weekly Narcotics Anonymous meetings, I assume in addition to whatever other treatment they prescribe after his evaluation. I'm not going to spend too much time analyzing everything he says and does, but will try to just be thankful that things seem to be headed away from the downward spiral "for today."</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Origami, post: 646803, member: 18099"] daughter in law had asked difficult child to come over to put the kids to bed last night, and he came in just a few minutes before their bedtime. He came in the living room and sat down with us. He said, "I wanted to say I'm sorry that I did drugs in your house." I said thanks for the apology. He then told us that his court case (for heroin possession) was settled yesterday and he got 2 years of probation. He said he'll be evaluated by somebody today and is going to tell them the truth about his drug addiction so he'll get court-mandated treatment. He said he lied when he was arrested before (over 3 years ago) so didn't get any treatment. About this time in the conversation, my husband woke up from his easy-chair catnap, and I told him what difficult child just said. He said "That's good," and proceeded to ask if he wanted to move back in! daughter in law said, "No, he doesn't," and difficult child said he doesn't think it would be a good idea for him to live with us again because he was too comfortable doing drugs here (??!!). He has made arrangements to stay with a co-worker until he can rent an apartment, and has talked to his boss about his probation check-ins, etc. He said he wants to get better because he doesn't want to lose his job, kids, family, etc. daughter in law got mad when he said that because he didn't lead off with "kids," but I said I felt like it all goes together because he can't take care of his kids without a job. I know she resents the fact that he's going to get an apartment no problem while she's scrambling trying to piece her paltry income together for something. I hope difficult child can see fit to help her out with that, but I'm not sure what they're working out. I would say it's none of my business, except that I would like to see daughter in law and the grandkids find a livable arrangement. My daughter said she's considering sharing an apartment with them if she can handle it financially by this summer. Anyway, I'm not getting my hopes up too high, but this is literally the first time I've heard him even admit he has a problem or that he wants to quit the drugs. He said the conditions of his probation include weekly Narcotics Anonymous meetings, I assume in addition to whatever other treatment they prescribe after his evaluation. I'm not going to spend too much time analyzing everything he says and does, but will try to just be thankful that things seem to be headed away from the downward spiral "for today." [/QUOTE]
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