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Liahona
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Buster is sick and he has a sunburn. Miserable baby that wants to be held all the time.
We had a community clean-up day yesterday. difficult child 1 was wonderful and rewarded well for it. Then his reward time was over and his brothers time started. difficult child 1 wouldn't leave them alone. Time to go downstairs for everyone's benefit. This was not meant to be a punishment. I told him he could read his book. Everyone just needed difficult child 1 to go downstairs.
He glared at me in defiance. I raised my voice. He stomped down the stairs. He came back up. I yelled for him to go back downstairs. He yelled back "fine then I'm not going to x's" and stomped down stairs again. He stayed downstairs until his brothers had their time.
Today I'm stuck holding Buster. I ask difficult child 1 to do dishes. This is a normal thing that he has done in the past. Excuses, a bit of defiance, throwing dishes into the sink. I put the carrot out there of ice cream after certain dishes are washed and the table cleaned off. He is doing it now, reluctantly. Telling easy child 4 to go away, as quite as he can. I'm going to have to watch him close with her.
I shouldn't have yelled. The plan is to call for help if difficult child 1 doesn't go downstairs when asked. Then the police will take him to a mental health teen-age cool down place. He was testing this and I failed. The correct response would've been to find my phone and look up the number. difficult child 1 would've gone downstairs fast. He has done so well the last few weeks. I feel blindsided by this.
I think this might have to do with the up coming 3 week long summer visit with x. I wouldn't blame him for going off the deep end. I just have to consider the safety of everyone else too. If it is about the visit its going to get worse.
Yes, I will be telling the therapist about this. No, nothing came of the last dose of emotional garbage x did (the bit about the cliff.)
We had a community clean-up day yesterday. difficult child 1 was wonderful and rewarded well for it. Then his reward time was over and his brothers time started. difficult child 1 wouldn't leave them alone. Time to go downstairs for everyone's benefit. This was not meant to be a punishment. I told him he could read his book. Everyone just needed difficult child 1 to go downstairs.
He glared at me in defiance. I raised my voice. He stomped down the stairs. He came back up. I yelled for him to go back downstairs. He yelled back "fine then I'm not going to x's" and stomped down stairs again. He stayed downstairs until his brothers had their time.
Today I'm stuck holding Buster. I ask difficult child 1 to do dishes. This is a normal thing that he has done in the past. Excuses, a bit of defiance, throwing dishes into the sink. I put the carrot out there of ice cream after certain dishes are washed and the table cleaned off. He is doing it now, reluctantly. Telling easy child 4 to go away, as quite as he can. I'm going to have to watch him close with her.
I shouldn't have yelled. The plan is to call for help if difficult child 1 doesn't go downstairs when asked. Then the police will take him to a mental health teen-age cool down place. He was testing this and I failed. The correct response would've been to find my phone and look up the number. difficult child 1 would've gone downstairs fast. He has done so well the last few weeks. I feel blindsided by this.
I think this might have to do with the up coming 3 week long summer visit with x. I wouldn't blame him for going off the deep end. I just have to consider the safety of everyone else too. If it is about the visit its going to get worse.
Yes, I will be telling the therapist about this. No, nothing came of the last dose of emotional garbage x did (the bit about the cliff.)