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difficult child 17. How will he handle adulthood?
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<blockquote data-quote="Sara PA" data-source="post: 104948" data-attributes="member: 1498"><p>I found it easier to pick up after my son than to nag him about doing it. I needed the food remains picked up for my own sanity, the rest was his problem. I wasn't about to go to war over it. Fighting with him would teach him nothing; he knew his room was a mess. Natural consequences are being experienced now that his apartment is embarrassingly messy and he doesn't feel comfortable having people (including his landlady) visit. </p><p></p><p>Cleaning his room when he was 17 only because I went to war wouldn't have changed anything about how he lives now. He knows how to hang his clothes, he knows how to wash dishes, he knows how to use a trash can....and empty it. And he knew when he was 17. He needs to do it because he wants to live better, not because I said he must do it. </p><p></p><p>And don't get too caught up in the idea that college must happen right after high school. It doesn't. And, in my opinion, it's often better if it doesn't.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Sara PA, post: 104948, member: 1498"] I found it easier to pick up after my son than to nag him about doing it. I needed the food remains picked up for my own sanity, the rest was his problem. I wasn't about to go to war over it. Fighting with him would teach him nothing; he knew his room was a mess. Natural consequences are being experienced now that his apartment is embarrassingly messy and he doesn't feel comfortable having people (including his landlady) visit. Cleaning his room when he was 17 only because I went to war wouldn't have changed anything about how he lives now. He knows how to hang his clothes, he knows how to wash dishes, he knows how to use a trash can....and empty it. And he knew when he was 17. He needs to do it because he wants to live better, not because I said he must do it. And don't get too caught up in the idea that college must happen right after high school. It doesn't. And, in my opinion, it's often better if it doesn't. [/QUOTE]
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