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<blockquote data-quote="susiestar" data-source="post: 311724" data-attributes="member: 1233"><p>You do NOT have to tolerate this. You CAN make him leave. Or set conditions for him to live at home and let him know the consequences. </p><p></p><p>If he stays at home then you need to put locks on your bedroom, garage, the other kids rooms, and keep them locked if you are not IN the room. Lock any cabinets you can, even put a chain around teh fridge in the house if you want/need to.</p><p></p><p>Since you suspect pot use, you can make drug testing AND showing you the results a condition of him living at home. Same for medications AND for signing releases to let you know what is going on at each appointment, for you to sit in on all doctor appts and discuss things, and any other medical thing that goes on.</p><p></p><p>As you decide what to insist and what to ignore, call the dept of human services and ask for transitional help for an 18yo who needs to leave his parents home. Ask what services he is eligible for.</p><p></p><p>Since you have 3 other kids at home, ALL of whom are watching difficult child's antics and figuring out what all they want to do and can or cannot get away with, it would be good to address this as soon as you can get a good plan together.</p><p></p><p>Remember that if you are using you are dealing. It is the rule with pot and other illegal drugs. If he is doing ANY dealing using your home, cars or other property, the police CAN seize the property and refuse to let you have it back. With 3 other kids you want to be VERY CAREFUL in what messages you send to difficult child about this. </p><p></p><p>I hope things get better soon.</p><p></p><p>Hugs.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="susiestar, post: 311724, member: 1233"] You do NOT have to tolerate this. You CAN make him leave. Or set conditions for him to live at home and let him know the consequences. If he stays at home then you need to put locks on your bedroom, garage, the other kids rooms, and keep them locked if you are not IN the room. Lock any cabinets you can, even put a chain around teh fridge in the house if you want/need to. Since you suspect pot use, you can make drug testing AND showing you the results a condition of him living at home. Same for medications AND for signing releases to let you know what is going on at each appointment, for you to sit in on all doctor appts and discuss things, and any other medical thing that goes on. As you decide what to insist and what to ignore, call the dept of human services and ask for transitional help for an 18yo who needs to leave his parents home. Ask what services he is eligible for. Since you have 3 other kids at home, ALL of whom are watching difficult child's antics and figuring out what all they want to do and can or cannot get away with, it would be good to address this as soon as you can get a good plan together. Remember that if you are using you are dealing. It is the rule with pot and other illegal drugs. If he is doing ANY dealing using your home, cars or other property, the police CAN seize the property and refuse to let you have it back. With 3 other kids you want to be VERY CAREFUL in what messages you send to difficult child about this. I hope things get better soon. Hugs. [/QUOTE]
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