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difficult child age 15 headed for trouble how to avoid it your advice please
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<blockquote data-quote="Nancy" data-source="post: 389599" data-attributes="member: 59"><p>toughlovin, yes our situations are so very similar that when I read your post I think I am reading my own. I too have an older daughter that is a breeze and has never given us any trouble. We parented both kids the same, exposed them to the same activities and opportunities in life. Our easy child went down one path and difficult child went down another. easy child was born with morals, they were enhanced along the way by her environment, but she was born that way. She wouldn't take something that wasn't hers for anything in the world. And she feels guilty if she says or does anything that hurts anyone. They couldn't be more different, opposite ends of the spectrum. We naively thought that environment meant everything and we could overcome anything. </p><p></p><p>It was so hard for me along the way because it seemed like nothing we did made any difference to difficult child or the way she behaved. It was like we had no impact on her whatsoever. We asked ourselves if we did her any good by adopting her and several of her therapists told us that she would have been much worse off if we hadn't. They told us that while we think we didn't make a difference it was probably the only thing that has kept her alive and out of worse trouble and that she would surely be living on the streets by now. I hang onto that and hope that when she is older some of the values we have tried to teach her kick in and she is able to have a much better life.</p><p></p><p>Nancy</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Nancy, post: 389599, member: 59"] toughlovin, yes our situations are so very similar that when I read your post I think I am reading my own. I too have an older daughter that is a breeze and has never given us any trouble. We parented both kids the same, exposed them to the same activities and opportunities in life. Our easy child went down one path and difficult child went down another. easy child was born with morals, they were enhanced along the way by her environment, but she was born that way. She wouldn't take something that wasn't hers for anything in the world. And she feels guilty if she says or does anything that hurts anyone. They couldn't be more different, opposite ends of the spectrum. We naively thought that environment meant everything and we could overcome anything. It was so hard for me along the way because it seemed like nothing we did made any difference to difficult child or the way she behaved. It was like we had no impact on her whatsoever. We asked ourselves if we did her any good by adopting her and several of her therapists told us that she would have been much worse off if we hadn't. They told us that while we think we didn't make a difference it was probably the only thing that has kept her alive and out of worse trouble and that she would surely be living on the streets by now. I hang onto that and hope that when she is older some of the values we have tried to teach her kick in and she is able to have a much better life. Nancy [/QUOTE]
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