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<blockquote data-quote="Marcie Mac" data-source="post: 327649" data-attributes="member: 47"><p>There is a big difference between the judges reference to "no getting in trouble for the next six months" and "making a crisis call due to mental health issues" If he is so depressed, so out of control he starts hurting himself, you have to get him help.</p><p> </p><p>I find when mine is on one of his "rolls", walking away and disengaging totally from the situation works well. If I would ask him if he wanted something to eat, and he yelled no, end of conversation. Any further questions -are you sure you don't want to eat, how bout some eggs, no, some toast, no, McDonalds breakfast, oh, I'll just go get him something to drink - on the issue is going to up the ante big time and set the tone for the rest of the day. </p><p> </p><p>And I totally understand being fed up with the attitude and wanting to knock his head off his shoulders - wish I had a dollar for everytime I wanted to do just that - but actually doing it would just further upping the ante again. You are fortunate you took yourself off to your room and he walked outside because the senario could have turned out worse and the police didn't have to show up. </p><p> </p><p>You have posted before about these kind of dynamics in your house and it seems like a lot of anger and depression simmering between you, husband, difficult child. Going off the deep end, going after him, throwing presents at him isn't helping the situation. I mean really, what did that accomplish? If he starts acting like a horses behind, walk away. He doesn't want to eat, fine. He doesn't want to go to the mall, fine. One mention of he should maybe think about dressing better for court and thats it.</p><p> </p><p>I really would suggest some counceling for all of you, or starting with you. </p><p> </p><p>Hope today goes better for you.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Marcie Mac, post: 327649, member: 47"] There is a big difference between the judges reference to "no getting in trouble for the next six months" and "making a crisis call due to mental health issues" If he is so depressed, so out of control he starts hurting himself, you have to get him help. I find when mine is on one of his "rolls", walking away and disengaging totally from the situation works well. If I would ask him if he wanted something to eat, and he yelled no, end of conversation. Any further questions -are you sure you don't want to eat, how bout some eggs, no, some toast, no, McDonalds breakfast, oh, I'll just go get him something to drink - on the issue is going to up the ante big time and set the tone for the rest of the day. And I totally understand being fed up with the attitude and wanting to knock his head off his shoulders - wish I had a dollar for everytime I wanted to do just that - but actually doing it would just further upping the ante again. You are fortunate you took yourself off to your room and he walked outside because the senario could have turned out worse and the police didn't have to show up. You have posted before about these kind of dynamics in your house and it seems like a lot of anger and depression simmering between you, husband, difficult child. Going off the deep end, going after him, throwing presents at him isn't helping the situation. I mean really, what did that accomplish? If he starts acting like a horses behind, walk away. He doesn't want to eat, fine. He doesn't want to go to the mall, fine. One mention of he should maybe think about dressing better for court and thats it. I really would suggest some counceling for all of you, or starting with you. Hope today goes better for you. [/QUOTE]
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