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<blockquote data-quote="witzend" data-source="post: 307717" data-attributes="member: 99"><p>It sounds like more than just substance abuse. It will be impossible to know until he gets sober, if even only for a bit.</p><p></p><p>Is there any way that you can talk him into a 72 hour hold for detox and testing? It may not even be possible now that he's not cutting, I don't know... This just sounds like "bad" waiting to happen. I'm so sorry that things are going this way.</p><p></p><p>I know he won't want to sober up in the hospital, but the reality is, they can't know what's going on until he does, and there is a possibility of a lifetime of happiness there if he will just give up those three days of misery while they clean him up and get him tested. </p><p></p><p>I have a friend who is 63 who is a real drinker. It's clear to me that something more is going on. I know drinkers, I know crazy, and I know Alzheimer's. My gut instinct is that she has early onset Alzheimer's and is drinking to have something to blame her issues on. It's like she knows what she is supposed to be doing at any given moment, but can't make her mind tell her body what to do. It's possible that your son knows - and is afraid of - that he has some other diagnosis that will be a label that he doesn't want to have. I hope he can get to the point where he knows that "drinker" isn't such a nice label, either. Even worse, "drinker" starts as a choice. Mental illness doesn't. Although he <em>can</em> choose to deal with both issues...</p><p></p><p>My friend, my son, other people I know, some of our difficult children here often remind me of that line in Animal House at the end when they've all been caught; "Fat, drunk, and stupid is no way to go through life, son." It's funny in the movie, but in real life? Not so much.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="witzend, post: 307717, member: 99"] It sounds like more than just substance abuse. It will be impossible to know until he gets sober, if even only for a bit. Is there any way that you can talk him into a 72 hour hold for detox and testing? It may not even be possible now that he's not cutting, I don't know... This just sounds like "bad" waiting to happen. I'm so sorry that things are going this way. I know he won't want to sober up in the hospital, but the reality is, they can't know what's going on until he does, and there is a possibility of a lifetime of happiness there if he will just give up those three days of misery while they clean him up and get him tested. I have a friend who is 63 who is a real drinker. It's clear to me that something more is going on. I know drinkers, I know crazy, and I know Alzheimer's. My gut instinct is that she has early onset Alzheimer's and is drinking to have something to blame her issues on. It's like she knows what she is supposed to be doing at any given moment, but can't make her mind tell her body what to do. It's possible that your son knows - and is afraid of - that he has some other diagnosis that will be a label that he doesn't want to have. I hope he can get to the point where he knows that "drinker" isn't such a nice label, either. Even worse, "drinker" starts as a choice. Mental illness doesn't. Although he [I]can[/I] choose to deal with both issues... My friend, my son, other people I know, some of our difficult children here often remind me of that line in Animal House at the end when they've all been caught; "Fat, drunk, and stupid is no way to go through life, son." It's funny in the movie, but in real life? Not so much. [/QUOTE]
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