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<blockquote data-quote="klmno" data-source="post: 352473" data-attributes="member: 3699"><p>Janet, I think I covered this stuff in 3-4 threads back. He first started violating house arrest requirements, then apparently snuck and bought a pre-pay cell while out. We won't go into where that money came from but that's another story. PO gave him a warning then that very night he snuck out with a friend and I found him gone and locked the doors. He swears they were in our backyard hanging out but it was dark and I didn't see him. So, he didn't knock or call and just happened to be wearing clean clothes he needed (JROTC PT) for school the next day and ended up being out all night- then ended up skipping school Fri and not coming home til 8:00 PM. I knew PO was out until Mon., sso I reported it to mentor and also called police once I get scared that difficult child had run away and not just skipping out for a while. Then, difficult child stayed out all Sat night but got stuck sleeping a few hours outside in the wee hours of the morning- which is probably the only thing that kept him from following thru with his plan to run away. (He had a backpack full of camping gear packed, but changed his mind 15 mins after he left with it Sun.) He's been compliant since then and confessed to me what all - at least for the most part- he did yesterday and it was what I had feared- well, not sex but drugs.</p><p></p><p>ETA: They just came back. After mentor left difficult child asked me if I had told the PO about the drugs and I said yes and the plan was that if the drug test comes back positive, difficult child will have some counseling to address this urge (we can't really say it's an addiction at this poiint) for substance abuse and if difficult child is compliant with that and does not get another positive drug test, then he will not recieve a parole violation for it (I think that's what PO said) but he said he would bring it up in court as what actions difficult child has taken to get his head back in gear before doing something else illegal. difficult child that was probably a good thing that I told the PO because he had just told his mentor. So, I <em>think</em> everything is out in the open now. difficult child said he even told the mentor that he had been drinking fluids the past 2 days trying to flush his system out. Oh- and difficult child's friend had planned to run away with him because his mom was so mad at him she threatened to kick him out but difficult child hasn't heard from him in several days. (I said there was another phone confiscated then.) difficult child said he had gotten caught too. And they were planning on going to the state my bro is in. Sigh.</p><p></p><p>I had mentioned that to police on Friday when I thought difficult child had run away. He said they would look for him there and get him and extradite him back because he's a juvenile in the state Department of Juvenile Justice system. They are able to do more due to being a state thing instead of just local detention, I guess. You know, it scared me after I told all that personal stuff to the judge that time a couple of years ago, then the next court difficult child had she immediately put him on a suspended sentence to be turned over to state Department of Juvenile Justice. I'm starting to see how that helped minimize the chances of difficult child ending up with my bro. The remaining problem is the stupid GAL who doesn';t get that bro really isn't a good guy and I'm not the quack he made me out to be because at the next court, we will be in front of a different judge. Fortunately though, the PO and I are working together and he's not blaming me for all this.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="klmno, post: 352473, member: 3699"] Janet, I think I covered this stuff in 3-4 threads back. He first started violating house arrest requirements, then apparently snuck and bought a pre-pay cell while out. We won't go into where that money came from but that's another story. PO gave him a warning then that very night he snuck out with a friend and I found him gone and locked the doors. He swears they were in our backyard hanging out but it was dark and I didn't see him. So, he didn't knock or call and just happened to be wearing clean clothes he needed (JROTC PT) for school the next day and ended up being out all night- then ended up skipping school Fri and not coming home til 8:00 PM. I knew PO was out until Mon., sso I reported it to mentor and also called police once I get scared that difficult child had run away and not just skipping out for a while. Then, difficult child stayed out all Sat night but got stuck sleeping a few hours outside in the wee hours of the morning- which is probably the only thing that kept him from following thru with his plan to run away. (He had a backpack full of camping gear packed, but changed his mind 15 mins after he left with it Sun.) He's been compliant since then and confessed to me what all - at least for the most part- he did yesterday and it was what I had feared- well, not sex but drugs. ETA: They just came back. After mentor left difficult child asked me if I had told the PO about the drugs and I said yes and the plan was that if the drug test comes back positive, difficult child will have some counseling to address this urge (we can't really say it's an addiction at this poiint) for substance abuse and if difficult child is compliant with that and does not get another positive drug test, then he will not recieve a parole violation for it (I think that's what PO said) but he said he would bring it up in court as what actions difficult child has taken to get his head back in gear before doing something else illegal. difficult child that was probably a good thing that I told the PO because he had just told his mentor. So, I [I]think[/I] everything is out in the open now. difficult child said he even told the mentor that he had been drinking fluids the past 2 days trying to flush his system out. Oh- and difficult child's friend had planned to run away with him because his mom was so mad at him she threatened to kick him out but difficult child hasn't heard from him in several days. (I said there was another phone confiscated then.) difficult child said he had gotten caught too. And they were planning on going to the state my bro is in. Sigh. I had mentioned that to police on Friday when I thought difficult child had run away. He said they would look for him there and get him and extradite him back because he's a juvenile in the state Department of Juvenile Justice system. They are able to do more due to being a state thing instead of just local detention, I guess. You know, it scared me after I told all that personal stuff to the judge that time a couple of years ago, then the next court difficult child had she immediately put him on a suspended sentence to be turned over to state Department of Juvenile Justice. I'm starting to see how that helped minimize the chances of difficult child ending up with my bro. The remaining problem is the stupid GAL who doesn';t get that bro really isn't a good guy and I'm not the quack he made me out to be because at the next court, we will be in front of a different judge. Fortunately though, the PO and I are working together and he's not blaming me for all this. [/QUOTE]
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