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<blockquote data-quote="klmno" data-source="post: 352487" data-attributes="member: 3699"><p>I tried to get him involved when he was really trying hard last summer- he would go to church with me but wouldn't go to a youth group or function. He really does have a few different type issues when it comes to filling like he fits in with any kids except "bad" kids. I have offered to get him back in church if he wants to go. If he gets his head on straight he very well might- I noticed that toward the end of his incarceration, he had said he was reading the bible again and brought home the one they gave him to read in Department of Juvenile Justice (he was allowed to bring it). And, he has one that I got him as a gift a few years ago so he does look in that direction some when his head is on straight and I am more comfortable with it being his choice and not a parental requirement.</p><p></p><p>You know- he brought up to PO today that he does go long periods and does well, then loses it. I told PO that was true- but every late winter/early spring, he loses it and it all goes to pot (figurately speaking). PO is aware that we used to think this was bipolar, now no one does. But PO said "I have no idea what it is but difficult child, you need to help us find what the problem is and do your part, if there is something you need help with, tell your mom, or mentor, or me- we will get you whatever we can between the three of us. I will give you leeway if you mess up once on something, but if I tell you that's it and not to do it again and you go right out and do it anyway, I'm violating you".</p><p></p><p>Oh- regarding the length of time until the arraignment- in this state if a juvenile is being held in detention upon an arrest, they have to be arraigned with 2 days, I think it is, but since difficult child wasn't arrested, this is a parole violation, then he remains free. Those remaining free until arraignment just have dates set whenever available- this keeps the worst offenses moving thru the system quicker and gives time for the offenders of less serious things to stay in school and show if they are going to straighten up or get worse prior to going to court to determine a punishment. That being said, if a kid already is awaiting an arraignment and was allowed to be "free" during that time PLUS is on parole/probation, and a parent calls police on the kid, the kid will most likely be put in detention right away. So, if difficult child continues the bad stuff and I call cops, he won't be sitting at home for another month. </p><p></p><p>Last year, difficult child was missing school half the time so they didn't care about trying to put it off- plus given his offense, it didn't have me pushing for him to come home. As a matter of fact, I was pushing for Residential Treatment Center (RTC) but told the prosecuting attny that difficult child could NOT come home right then. So, they pretty much had to do something quick. If difficult child continues the way he was acting last week and thru the weekend, we will be at that point again.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="klmno, post: 352487, member: 3699"] I tried to get him involved when he was really trying hard last summer- he would go to church with me but wouldn't go to a youth group or function. He really does have a few different type issues when it comes to filling like he fits in with any kids except "bad" kids. I have offered to get him back in church if he wants to go. If he gets his head on straight he very well might- I noticed that toward the end of his incarceration, he had said he was reading the bible again and brought home the one they gave him to read in Department of Juvenile Justice (he was allowed to bring it). And, he has one that I got him as a gift a few years ago so he does look in that direction some when his head is on straight and I am more comfortable with it being his choice and not a parental requirement. You know- he brought up to PO today that he does go long periods and does well, then loses it. I told PO that was true- but every late winter/early spring, he loses it and it all goes to pot (figurately speaking). PO is aware that we used to think this was bipolar, now no one does. But PO said "I have no idea what it is but difficult child, you need to help us find what the problem is and do your part, if there is something you need help with, tell your mom, or mentor, or me- we will get you whatever we can between the three of us. I will give you leeway if you mess up once on something, but if I tell you that's it and not to do it again and you go right out and do it anyway, I'm violating you". Oh- regarding the length of time until the arraignment- in this state if a juvenile is being held in detention upon an arrest, they have to be arraigned with 2 days, I think it is, but since difficult child wasn't arrested, this is a parole violation, then he remains free. Those remaining free until arraignment just have dates set whenever available- this keeps the worst offenses moving thru the system quicker and gives time for the offenders of less serious things to stay in school and show if they are going to straighten up or get worse prior to going to court to determine a punishment. That being said, if a kid already is awaiting an arraignment and was allowed to be "free" during that time PLUS is on parole/probation, and a parent calls police on the kid, the kid will most likely be put in detention right away. So, if difficult child continues the bad stuff and I call cops, he won't be sitting at home for another month. Last year, difficult child was missing school half the time so they didn't care about trying to put it off- plus given his offense, it didn't have me pushing for him to come home. As a matter of fact, I was pushing for Residential Treatment Center (RTC) but told the prosecuting attny that difficult child could NOT come home right then. So, they pretty much had to do something quick. If difficult child continues the way he was acting last week and thru the weekend, we will be at that point again. [/QUOTE]
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