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<blockquote data-quote="DammitJanet" data-source="post: 514707" data-attributes="member: 1514"><p>I think this is great.</p><p></p><p>I think having something that is yours and you got for yourself is so important for a person. Billy and I were talking about this just yesterday. Now granted Billy isnt fully self sufficient yet because he still lives with us but he has never been given a darned thing unless it was a Christmas present since he was a kid. He bought his own car all on his own without help from us. He buys all his own computers, his own cell phones and plan, his own clothes. </p><p></p><p>The other day I happened to buy some jeans and tee shirts for Tony because he was badly in need of them for work. Buck saw them and bragged about how he never has to buy clothes for himself because people give him all their old clothes. Charity stuff. I said something to the effect of how we feel it is much nicer to be able to provide for our own needs rather than to have to rely on other people for all of our needs. If we can afford to provide those needs, we should. He can afford to buy his own clothes if he can afford to do drugs or other things he does. He thought we were stupid to make those choices. Billy was astounded because he just felt that he couldnt feel right in his heart if he had to keep taking charity over and over again. Even Cory does so much better when he is providing for himself. Cory wants to be on his own and not having to rely on us. Why this grown man thinks mooching is better is beyond me. </p><p></p><p>I am glad your daughter is growing into a person who wants to be self sufficient. She will feel much better about herself.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="DammitJanet, post: 514707, member: 1514"] I think this is great. I think having something that is yours and you got for yourself is so important for a person. Billy and I were talking about this just yesterday. Now granted Billy isnt fully self sufficient yet because he still lives with us but he has never been given a darned thing unless it was a Christmas present since he was a kid. He bought his own car all on his own without help from us. He buys all his own computers, his own cell phones and plan, his own clothes. The other day I happened to buy some jeans and tee shirts for Tony because he was badly in need of them for work. Buck saw them and bragged about how he never has to buy clothes for himself because people give him all their old clothes. Charity stuff. I said something to the effect of how we feel it is much nicer to be able to provide for our own needs rather than to have to rely on other people for all of our needs. If we can afford to provide those needs, we should. He can afford to buy his own clothes if he can afford to do drugs or other things he does. He thought we were stupid to make those choices. Billy was astounded because he just felt that he couldnt feel right in his heart if he had to keep taking charity over and over again. Even Cory does so much better when he is providing for himself. Cory wants to be on his own and not having to rely on us. Why this grown man thinks mooching is better is beyond me. I am glad your daughter is growing into a person who wants to be self sufficient. She will feel much better about herself. [/QUOTE]
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