My daughter was finishing her Masters degree in Psychology and starting her internship at a major city hospital. She woke one day to find literally baseballs size clumps of hair falling out. At the same time all her joints began to click as she moved, we could all hear it. For two years she visited doctors and specialists. During those two years the most unbelievable symptoms showed up. Scaling and scabs all over the scalp, lip skin would peel off every two weeks, pain in all muscles and joints. She eventually tested positive for having bacteria and parasites caused by Lyme disease. She must have had it for a few years and it went untreated so it caused nervous system and other damage in her body. This illness resulted in severe depression, anxiety and her giving up on her Masters. She tried every pain killer every and every natural remedy to try and reduce her pain. The only thing that seemed to provide some relief was Zolpidem (sleeping pills) at night. After being on an antibiotic PICC line for three months and other antiparasitic remedies a year ago it seemed the bugs were gone. But not the depression and anxiety.
All this has changed her completely over the last three years. She was a girl driven to succeed, with straight A's who knew exactly where she was going. A wonderful, girl who was always a delight to be around. Now she is rude to us and swears at us. She is noisy and shouts and screams at us and her brother and sister. She never cleans her room, dishes or clothes or even flushes the toilet. We cannot invite people over because she is so disruptive. She is dependant on sleeping pills, no matter how we try and control her supply she finds a way to get more. She goes to different doctors and gets money to pay for them by stealing from us. She spent $6,000 on my credit card consulting with psychics on the internet before we shut that down. She has more recently spent $1,500 on hair products (no kidding, 20 different types of hair conditioner in two weeks). She is still stunningly beautiful despite her substantial hair loss and has no problem finding another boyfriend when she has to. She lived at her boyfriend's for a while and was kicked out for stealing their things. She was engaged to her previous boyfriend and living with him until he could not deal with her any more, he was admitted to a mental hospital for 2 weeks and then kicked her out. She is back home again and sleeps most of the day and will not go back to finish her masters or get a job. She was seeing a psychiatrist for a while as well as a number of different psychologists and now refuses to go to any more. She will not admit to her addiction nor to even being depressed or to her anxiety. Her pain from her illness seems to come and go depending on how well she is doing getting the things she wants. I took her on a beach trip in the summer and she never complained of any pain. The pain returned when we go t home. When she got a new boyfriend her pain went away again for months until the relationship got rocky and then the pain returned.
We have told her many times to shape up or leave the house and go live elsewhere, but we could not follow through as we feel so terrible about how things got so bad for her through no fault of her own. She threatens to commit suicide if we make her leave. 911 has been called many times and once she was admitted for about a week. We feel like prisoners in our own home. My wife suffered form an emotional breakdown and had to give up her career and now stays at home as well.
I am positive the right thing to do is to carry out our threat to make her leave if she does not begin to comply with simple rules of living in our home. We are scared she will end up living on the street and get involved with criminals or in prostitution. I know my wife could not live with that thought, she has been to counselling to try and deal with it. I do not know if I could live with that either. May be that is my job, to look after her until die.
All this has changed her completely over the last three years. She was a girl driven to succeed, with straight A's who knew exactly where she was going. A wonderful, girl who was always a delight to be around. Now she is rude to us and swears at us. She is noisy and shouts and screams at us and her brother and sister. She never cleans her room, dishes or clothes or even flushes the toilet. We cannot invite people over because she is so disruptive. She is dependant on sleeping pills, no matter how we try and control her supply she finds a way to get more. She goes to different doctors and gets money to pay for them by stealing from us. She spent $6,000 on my credit card consulting with psychics on the internet before we shut that down. She has more recently spent $1,500 on hair products (no kidding, 20 different types of hair conditioner in two weeks). She is still stunningly beautiful despite her substantial hair loss and has no problem finding another boyfriend when she has to. She lived at her boyfriend's for a while and was kicked out for stealing their things. She was engaged to her previous boyfriend and living with him until he could not deal with her any more, he was admitted to a mental hospital for 2 weeks and then kicked her out. She is back home again and sleeps most of the day and will not go back to finish her masters or get a job. She was seeing a psychiatrist for a while as well as a number of different psychologists and now refuses to go to any more. She will not admit to her addiction nor to even being depressed or to her anxiety. Her pain from her illness seems to come and go depending on how well she is doing getting the things she wants. I took her on a beach trip in the summer and she never complained of any pain. The pain returned when we go t home. When she got a new boyfriend her pain went away again for months until the relationship got rocky and then the pain returned.
We have told her many times to shape up or leave the house and go live elsewhere, but we could not follow through as we feel so terrible about how things got so bad for her through no fault of her own. She threatens to commit suicide if we make her leave. 911 has been called many times and once she was admitted for about a week. We feel like prisoners in our own home. My wife suffered form an emotional breakdown and had to give up her career and now stays at home as well.
I am positive the right thing to do is to carry out our threat to make her leave if she does not begin to comply with simple rules of living in our home. We are scared she will end up living on the street and get involved with criminals or in prostitution. I know my wife could not live with that thought, she has been to counselling to try and deal with it. I do not know if I could live with that either. May be that is my job, to look after her until die.