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<blockquote data-quote="klmno" data-source="post: 513384" data-attributes="member: 3699"><p>Oh it doesn't mean the plan isn't in effect- the parent doesn't have to agree with the parole plan. Now, the counseling he's ordered is a different story- they can't do that unless I agree. I am required to go to the mtg on Monday and will do so. Hopefully, I'll be able to announce that I'm moving then. As soon as I get a lease on something that is vacant so I can run over and stick a box in it, I can start the process of having difficult child's PO file transferred. This PO will hold that up as long as he can so we're looking at probably a mo before they get his file, only because I think this PO is set on throwing a wrench in anything he can. In the meantime, it won't be holding much up because this PO got a flippin counselor ordered without calling to find out how long it would take to get started anyway, apparently. So, if I do sign agreement to do this counseling, we'd have probably 1-2 sessions under this PO. But, if I can make sure I'm not being documented as noncompliant for this, I'd prefer to wait until I'm moved and under a different PO before anything like that gets locked in.</p><p></p><p>I researched the type of intensive family therapy he ordered. It was developed for families where kids have been bounced from foster homes and Department of Juvenile Justice due to having been exposed to violence as children and the core of it is to change the parents' value system and it lasts about 6 mos. Now, while I can see that they get the trauma aspect and violence in the home aspect, I think it's a tad different when difficult child didn't grow up in a violent home and he was the agressor toward me and funny how no one has ever said the problem was my value system. Actually, when we trialed MST therapy, that guy wrote down my values as my strenght or good quality. LOL!</p><p></p><p>But, PO making assumptions and running with it even when it doesn't seem logical is true to his form. It's not the lady's fault though, from this program, so I'll be nice to her. I'm praying that I can go in and listen about her services and how wonderful and helpful it is and ask 1 or 2 really simple questions, stress how my main concern is to get an appropriate and useful plan for difficult child, say I'm moving but will keep this wonderful opportunity in mind in case the next PO would like to discuss it as an option. Then leave.</p><p></p><p>I'll visit difficult child tomorrow and tell him this is a possibility, just so he won't be floored on Monday if it happens, but will just tell him it's a slight possibility so he won't get set on it happening.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="klmno, post: 513384, member: 3699"] Oh it doesn't mean the plan isn't in effect- the parent doesn't have to agree with the parole plan. Now, the counseling he's ordered is a different story- they can't do that unless I agree. I am required to go to the mtg on Monday and will do so. Hopefully, I'll be able to announce that I'm moving then. As soon as I get a lease on something that is vacant so I can run over and stick a box in it, I can start the process of having difficult child's PO file transferred. This PO will hold that up as long as he can so we're looking at probably a mo before they get his file, only because I think this PO is set on throwing a wrench in anything he can. In the meantime, it won't be holding much up because this PO got a flippin counselor ordered without calling to find out how long it would take to get started anyway, apparently. So, if I do sign agreement to do this counseling, we'd have probably 1-2 sessions under this PO. But, if I can make sure I'm not being documented as noncompliant for this, I'd prefer to wait until I'm moved and under a different PO before anything like that gets locked in. I researched the type of intensive family therapy he ordered. It was developed for families where kids have been bounced from foster homes and Department of Juvenile Justice due to having been exposed to violence as children and the core of it is to change the parents' value system and it lasts about 6 mos. Now, while I can see that they get the trauma aspect and violence in the home aspect, I think it's a tad different when difficult child didn't grow up in a violent home and he was the agressor toward me and funny how no one has ever said the problem was my value system. Actually, when we trialed MST therapy, that guy wrote down my values as my strenght or good quality. LOL! But, PO making assumptions and running with it even when it doesn't seem logical is true to his form. It's not the lady's fault though, from this program, so I'll be nice to her. I'm praying that I can go in and listen about her services and how wonderful and helpful it is and ask 1 or 2 really simple questions, stress how my main concern is to get an appropriate and useful plan for difficult child, say I'm moving but will keep this wonderful opportunity in mind in case the next PO would like to discuss it as an option. Then leave. I'll visit difficult child tomorrow and tell him this is a possibility, just so he won't be floored on Monday if it happens, but will just tell him it's a slight possibility so he won't get set on it happening. [/QUOTE]
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