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<blockquote data-quote="witzend" data-source="post: 150193" data-attributes="member: 99"><p>Ah, the bad old days... I hope that you and your husband will have the opportunity to come up with a plan for him come June (if he makes it that far in school and they don't kick him out) that you can both feel comfortable with. It sounds to me like he's going for the old "divide and conquer." </p><p></p><p></p><p>Not to make light, but did your husband consider that if he can't figure out how to bring a pencil or book to class, he probably isn't going to figure out where he will live in a few weeks when he leaves your house? <img src="data:image/gif;base64,R0lGODlhAQABAIAAAAAAAP///yH5BAEAAAAALAAAAAABAAEAAAIBRAA7" class="smilie smilie--sprite smilie--sprite2" alt=";)" title="Wink ;)" loading="lazy" data-shortname=";)" /> Your difficult child is probably a lot like mine. He had a lot of big talk about how much he didn't need us and all the wonderful gadgets, cars, toys and apartments he was going to have when he was 18, and he didn't have a plan. But the day we kicked him out, he found a place to stay. He didn't go hungry. He found a series of gullible people to take our place. It took him 3 years to burn through them all, because they were all people who were new to him and didn't know what they were getting themselves into. </p><p></p><p>Now he has a job and rents a room in a guy's house. I doubt he has much more than that. I know he has no car. He's just learning his lesson and making his plan the hard way. He never could have done it without going out our door screaming "I'm never coming back" to our resounding replies of "THANK GOD!" He always thought he was too good for the rest of the world. Getting kicked out of someone else's house has a way of changing their point of view. Eating top ramin every day for a while doesn't hurt either.</p><p></p><p>Do what you can to get you and husband on the same page, whatever it is that you decide to do. Go to dinner and talk it out. Be honest with each other about how this all is affecting your lives, and what really might happen if he isn't at your house. Will he be on the street, or will some well-meaning idiot take him in? And take advantage of every opportunity to relax. You're almost there.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="witzend, post: 150193, member: 99"] Ah, the bad old days... I hope that you and your husband will have the opportunity to come up with a plan for him come June (if he makes it that far in school and they don't kick him out) that you can both feel comfortable with. It sounds to me like he's going for the old "divide and conquer." Not to make light, but did your husband consider that if he can't figure out how to bring a pencil or book to class, he probably isn't going to figure out where he will live in a few weeks when he leaves your house? ;) Your difficult child is probably a lot like mine. He had a lot of big talk about how much he didn't need us and all the wonderful gadgets, cars, toys and apartments he was going to have when he was 18, and he didn't have a plan. But the day we kicked him out, he found a place to stay. He didn't go hungry. He found a series of gullible people to take our place. It took him 3 years to burn through them all, because they were all people who were new to him and didn't know what they were getting themselves into. Now he has a job and rents a room in a guy's house. I doubt he has much more than that. I know he has no car. He's just learning his lesson and making his plan the hard way. He never could have done it without going out our door screaming "I'm never coming back" to our resounding replies of "THANK GOD!" He always thought he was too good for the rest of the world. Getting kicked out of someone else's house has a way of changing their point of view. Eating top ramin every day for a while doesn't hurt either. Do what you can to get you and husband on the same page, whatever it is that you decide to do. Go to dinner and talk it out. Be honest with each other about how this all is affecting your lives, and what really might happen if he isn't at your house. Will he be on the street, or will some well-meaning idiot take him in? And take advantage of every opportunity to relax. You're almost there. [/QUOTE]
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