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<blockquote data-quote="meowbunny" data-source="post: 150278" data-attributes="member: 3626"><p>So, he's found a way to freeload for another year. How lovely! What does he do in his room besides sleep? If has anything in there beyond a bed and dresser for his clothes, I'd be removing them. I'd also be removing any and all privileges of the house that I could. If he can't even do the dishes, he doesn't need the good stuff that being a kid offers, up to and including yummy food.</p><p> </p><p>At 18, my daughter had enough credits to be a sophomore. She quit school. It made me so very, very sad. Still does.</p><p> </p><p>I did make her pay a nominal amount of rent once she quit school. Of course, she thought it was way too much and left and came back and left and came back and .... She, too, ran through her friends. Unfortunately, she didn't have enough to make it 3 years before going through all of them. Each time, she would follow house rules for a short period of time and then go back to old ways. The last time she almost lasted a year before slipping backwards. However, this time around she found an apartment and signed a lease. From what I know, she's doing well.</p><p> </p><p>Given his attitude at home and school, the best thing for him might be forcing him to face the world. He may actually surprise you and truly work on being at least somewhat responsible once he discovers how hard life can be with no education and no skills. </p><p> </p><p>Letting our kids go when they have no place to go is hard -- whether it is their choice or your choice because of their behavior. At the same time, it may just be the best thing you can do for them.</p><p> </p><p>For now, HUGS ... I understand your frustration all too well.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="meowbunny, post: 150278, member: 3626"] So, he's found a way to freeload for another year. How lovely! What does he do in his room besides sleep? If has anything in there beyond a bed and dresser for his clothes, I'd be removing them. I'd also be removing any and all privileges of the house that I could. If he can't even do the dishes, he doesn't need the good stuff that being a kid offers, up to and including yummy food. At 18, my daughter had enough credits to be a sophomore. She quit school. It made me so very, very sad. Still does. I did make her pay a nominal amount of rent once she quit school. Of course, she thought it was way too much and left and came back and left and came back and .... She, too, ran through her friends. Unfortunately, she didn't have enough to make it 3 years before going through all of them. Each time, she would follow house rules for a short period of time and then go back to old ways. The last time she almost lasted a year before slipping backwards. However, this time around she found an apartment and signed a lease. From what I know, she's doing well. Given his attitude at home and school, the best thing for him might be forcing him to face the world. He may actually surprise you and truly work on being at least somewhat responsible once he discovers how hard life can be with no education and no skills. Letting our kids go when they have no place to go is hard -- whether it is their choice or your choice because of their behavior. At the same time, it may just be the best thing you can do for them. For now, HUGS ... I understand your frustration all too well. [/QUOTE]
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