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<blockquote data-quote="Merris" data-source="post: 79773" data-attributes="member: 849"><p>The facts:</p><p></p><p>They are kicked out at 8am and cannot return until 4pm - they must be in by 10pm or they are locked out (probation violation)</p><p></p><p>There is no job training or structure. He lives there, he leaves and does whatever he wants. Can we say "hang out with negative friends"?</p><p></p><p>I talked to his Clinical Director today and he told me one thing, then I spoke with the Social Worker at the program and she was very obviously a state worker. Not interested, told me that it's "free-will", they aren't a babysitting service, etc. I was FURIOUS but I held my tongue.</p><p></p><p>I was told that his housing will be "subsidized" not covered. Not what was told to the court. He may go into congregate living - Not what was told to the court. If he is going to school, who is supposed to pay the additional amount? He has had an application for SSI made, but we all know they are denied and then need to be reviewed before they will be approved.</p><p></p><p>I called the school today to set up a PPT. No, he shouldn't be an 18 year old in 10th grade, but they are required by law to provide him with education and according to DMHAS, they have to take their recommendations and use them in the IEP.</p><p></p><p>When I picked him up (I know, I know) we talked about how I believe in him and how he needs to believe in himself. He said the right words (he's stronger than he thought he was), but I hope this time it's the truth.</p><p></p><p>HERE'S MY PERSPECTIVE - Please correct me if you disagree.</p><p></p><p>He's been in jail and a hospital for 1 year. He has had no contact with anyone except me, a few of his friends and his grandparents on the phone. They put him in a psychiatric hospital to stabilize his medications, he's facing 9 years in jail if he screws up - and they just let him GO?! Am I wrong? Am I just feeling the fear? </p><p></p><p>Right now he is at a friend's house and the friend is going to drive him back. I told him to call me when they leave. See? I'm not LETTING him take responsibility for it, because I want everything to be okay.</p><p></p><p>He tried to call his probation officer today but the guy's voicemail was full. It's ALWAYS full. I sent him an email explaining that difficult child was transferred. I cc'd difficult child's public defender. I'm afraid for him to screw up. I'm afraid for things to go wrong.</p><p></p><p>My sister suggested that he and I take a ride on the bus system in the town where he is living so that he "learns how". He's never been on a bus before (other than a school bus). He can't count on me for transportation. He needs to get a job and he needs to be able to get there himself.</p><p></p><p>Let, not make. Maybe I have to LET him take over and MAKE myself stop.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Merris, post: 79773, member: 849"] The facts: They are kicked out at 8am and cannot return until 4pm - they must be in by 10pm or they are locked out (probation violation) There is no job training or structure. He lives there, he leaves and does whatever he wants. Can we say "hang out with negative friends"? I talked to his Clinical Director today and he told me one thing, then I spoke with the Social Worker at the program and she was very obviously a state worker. Not interested, told me that it's "free-will", they aren't a babysitting service, etc. I was FURIOUS but I held my tongue. I was told that his housing will be "subsidized" not covered. Not what was told to the court. He may go into congregate living - Not what was told to the court. If he is going to school, who is supposed to pay the additional amount? He has had an application for SSI made, but we all know they are denied and then need to be reviewed before they will be approved. I called the school today to set up a PPT. No, he shouldn't be an 18 year old in 10th grade, but they are required by law to provide him with education and according to DMHAS, they have to take their recommendations and use them in the IEP. When I picked him up (I know, I know) we talked about how I believe in him and how he needs to believe in himself. He said the right words (he's stronger than he thought he was), but I hope this time it's the truth. HERE'S MY PERSPECTIVE - Please correct me if you disagree. He's been in jail and a hospital for 1 year. He has had no contact with anyone except me, a few of his friends and his grandparents on the phone. They put him in a psychiatric hospital to stabilize his medications, he's facing 9 years in jail if he screws up - and they just let him GO?! Am I wrong? Am I just feeling the fear? Right now he is at a friend's house and the friend is going to drive him back. I told him to call me when they leave. See? I'm not LETTING him take responsibility for it, because I want everything to be okay. He tried to call his probation officer today but the guy's voicemail was full. It's ALWAYS full. I sent him an email explaining that difficult child was transferred. I cc'd difficult child's public defender. I'm afraid for him to screw up. I'm afraid for things to go wrong. My sister suggested that he and I take a ride on the bus system in the town where he is living so that he "learns how". He's never been on a bus before (other than a school bus). He can't count on me for transportation. He needs to get a job and he needs to be able to get there himself. Let, not make. Maybe I have to LET him take over and MAKE myself stop. [/QUOTE]
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