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difficult child....nature...nurture?
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<blockquote data-quote="InsaneCdn" data-source="post: 501058" data-attributes="member: 11791"><p>Nature vs nurture...</p><p></p><p>Well. If "nurture" includes the things that happen at school, then... I'd have to say its "BOTH".</p><p></p><p>Our difficult child had some things from the start - things that showed up before or by kindergarten... motor skills issues, impulsivity, difficulties with focus, etc. We expected some of this - ADHD runs strongly in the family, motor skills issues are around in the genes too. (part of the "nature" argument).</p><p></p><p>But... it took 10 years to get all the dxes... at which point we started to get the right interventions, accommodations and medications (we were partly right on medications...)... and in the mean time: school drove him to insanity, which actually never got a diagnosis, but earlier dxes due to school included anxiety, and depression. THESE were definitely not a part of the kid we started with.</p><p></p><p>We started with a challenging kid - but not one that I would have called a difficult child.</p><p>We ended up with a full-blown difficult child.</p><p>It wasn't parenting that was the problem (though, truth be known, if we had known then what we know now, we would have made changes to our parenting approach as well). It was SCHOOL., Plus the failure of the medical community to deliver appropriate dxes in a timely manner, that created the difficult child.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="InsaneCdn, post: 501058, member: 11791"] Nature vs nurture... Well. If "nurture" includes the things that happen at school, then... I'd have to say its "BOTH". Our difficult child had some things from the start - things that showed up before or by kindergarten... motor skills issues, impulsivity, difficulties with focus, etc. We expected some of this - ADHD runs strongly in the family, motor skills issues are around in the genes too. (part of the "nature" argument). But... it took 10 years to get all the dxes... at which point we started to get the right interventions, accommodations and medications (we were partly right on medications...)... and in the mean time: school drove him to insanity, which actually never got a diagnosis, but earlier dxes due to school included anxiety, and depression. THESE were definitely not a part of the kid we started with. We started with a challenging kid - but not one that I would have called a difficult child. We ended up with a full-blown difficult child. It wasn't parenting that was the problem (though, truth be known, if we had known then what we know now, we would have made changes to our parenting approach as well). It was SCHOOL., Plus the failure of the medical community to deliver appropriate dxes in a timely manner, that created the difficult child. [/QUOTE]
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