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<blockquote data-quote="jbrain" data-source="post: 268409" data-attributes="member: 3450"><p>It will work out, Jo. She's still so young, who knows how she will feel about college in a few years? I think it is great she likes her job--and it does feel good to earn money--gives you confidence and a sense of independence.</p><p></p><p>None of my kids appear to be taking the route I thought they would. easy child son went to college for 2 yrs and got into trouble with drinking. He has a great work ethic though and has never lacked a job. He is now a cook in a restaurant in Seattle and saving his money to go back to college--he really does want a degree. difficult child 1 ended up with a GED at the age of 17--she hated school and was not about to finish high school after her stints in Residential Treatment Center (RTC) and rehabs. She worked very hard to get the GED while in her last rehab. As you know she is an "exotic dancer"--she earns a lot of money for what she considers very little work. difficult child 2/easy child is a senior in high school and has no desire for college though she is probably the smartest of the 3 kids and is the one I would have predicted going for an advanced degree eventually. Who knows, might still happen. </p><p></p><p>I think this parenting has been the most educational and humbling experience of my life. I have really had to learn to let go of expectations for other people and to let them live their own lives. I am so much less judgmental than I was as a young adult and I no longer see things as black and white. I also learned to "never say never". I have learned that you just cannot predict what will happen, you can't have your life all planned out and expect it to go that way.</p><p></p><p>I actually think in some ways we are luckier than parents who have had "perfect" children who followed the paths their parents set for them. If those children rebel at some point it is going to be really hard for the parents to deal with it. We, in this group, are all experts at adapting and being knocked down and picking ourselves up over and over again. We truly are strong people, all of us, and I don't know of a more compassionate group of people than us!</p><p></p><p>Jane</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="jbrain, post: 268409, member: 3450"] It will work out, Jo. She's still so young, who knows how she will feel about college in a few years? I think it is great she likes her job--and it does feel good to earn money--gives you confidence and a sense of independence. None of my kids appear to be taking the route I thought they would. easy child son went to college for 2 yrs and got into trouble with drinking. He has a great work ethic though and has never lacked a job. He is now a cook in a restaurant in Seattle and saving his money to go back to college--he really does want a degree. difficult child 1 ended up with a GED at the age of 17--she hated school and was not about to finish high school after her stints in Residential Treatment Center (RTC) and rehabs. She worked very hard to get the GED while in her last rehab. As you know she is an "exotic dancer"--she earns a lot of money for what she considers very little work. difficult child 2/easy child is a senior in high school and has no desire for college though she is probably the smartest of the 3 kids and is the one I would have predicted going for an advanced degree eventually. Who knows, might still happen. I think this parenting has been the most educational and humbling experience of my life. I have really had to learn to let go of expectations for other people and to let them live their own lives. I am so much less judgmental than I was as a young adult and I no longer see things as black and white. I also learned to "never say never". I have learned that you just cannot predict what will happen, you can't have your life all planned out and expect it to go that way. I actually think in some ways we are luckier than parents who have had "perfect" children who followed the paths their parents set for them. If those children rebel at some point it is going to be really hard for the parents to deal with it. We, in this group, are all experts at adapting and being knocked down and picking ourselves up over and over again. We truly are strong people, all of us, and I don't know of a more compassionate group of people than us! Jane [/QUOTE]
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