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difficult child spent his first night in Juvenille Detention...I had to call 911
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<blockquote data-quote="toshiba54" data-source="post: 419588" data-attributes="member: 11639"><p>YOur son sounds very much like mine. Although my ds is way further on the path. He's been in juvenile detention several times, been in Residential Treatment Center (RTC). I've found you don't realy have a chance. the system sides with the kid if its to their benefit---don't forget, its all about the money.</p><p> </p><p>the other poster's advice about running to counseling 3x/week simply isn't practical. counselors don't work for free, and insurance benefits are limited. And no, there isn't free counseling available at county mental health clinics. those who say so are expecting you to live in their dream world. At best, those 'free" clinics have extremely limited services, like 1-2 visits, and are usually worthless. Frankly, I've found counseling to make the situation worse, it empowers the kid and diminishes the parent as an authority figure.</p><p> </p><p>There is no solution, just sidestep things as best you can and try to keep the system out of your face. I would NOT call the PO. Believe me, they don't like that. I've tried calling my son's PO, got conflicting advice, then she denied she'd ever said such things, then claimed in court I was "calling her too much". Just what do you expect to get out of her, anyways? The only thing you want from her is to stamp your paperwork probation served. She can't decrease the probation, no lessen the terms and condiitons. But she CAN recommend to increase the probation, and make the terms more severe. believe me, they can't make the situation any better, but can make it mucn worse. They are best left alone!</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="toshiba54, post: 419588, member: 11639"] YOur son sounds very much like mine. Although my ds is way further on the path. He's been in juvenile detention several times, been in Residential Treatment Center (RTC). I've found you don't realy have a chance. the system sides with the kid if its to their benefit---don't forget, its all about the money. the other poster's advice about running to counseling 3x/week simply isn't practical. counselors don't work for free, and insurance benefits are limited. And no, there isn't free counseling available at county mental health clinics. those who say so are expecting you to live in their dream world. At best, those 'free" clinics have extremely limited services, like 1-2 visits, and are usually worthless. Frankly, I've found counseling to make the situation worse, it empowers the kid and diminishes the parent as an authority figure. There is no solution, just sidestep things as best you can and try to keep the system out of your face. I would NOT call the PO. Believe me, they don't like that. I've tried calling my son's PO, got conflicting advice, then she denied she'd ever said such things, then claimed in court I was "calling her too much". Just what do you expect to get out of her, anyways? The only thing you want from her is to stamp your paperwork probation served. She can't decrease the probation, no lessen the terms and condiitons. But she CAN recommend to increase the probation, and make the terms more severe. believe me, they can't make the situation any better, but can make it mucn worse. They are best left alone! [/QUOTE]
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