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difficult child stabbed yesterday, he's okay, in hospital
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<blockquote data-quote="Scent of Cedar *" data-source="post: 633762" data-attributes="member: 17461"><p>I read your post too, COM. </p><p></p><p>There is nothing I can say to comfort you right now, except that, tough as this time is, you are handling it well.</p><p></p><p>Sometimes COM, that is the thing we cannot see.</p><p></p><p>We cannot see ourselves standing up, behaving ethically, balancing between the cloud and its unseen lining.</p><p></p><p>You are fine.</p><p></p><p>You are on course.</p><p></p><p>You are walking that fine line between crazy and rage and betrayal and nothing anyone can say will change what this time is. But I can tell you it won't always feel like this.</p><p></p><p>We are all right here, COM. </p><p></p><p>Your imagery of that place of balance between the cloud and its lining gave me a way to stay present through so many confusing times.</p><p></p><p>Let go, COM. This isn't about the girl. If it weren't her, it would be someone else. Remember difficult child daughter, going from one abusive male to the next? </p><p></p><p>And oh, how I hated them, how I believed that they were victimizing difficult child. </p><p></p><p>Remember when difficult child daughter would not come in off the streets because we would not take in the abusive male, too?</p><p></p><p>Your son is, at last, showing an interest in someone else's well being. He is trying to do the right thing.</p><p></p><p>Help him as you are able. Recovering told me once that if we resent the help we are giving, that is how we know we are enabling. Once we know the feeling of that place, then we know where to </p><p>begin working on ourselves. </p><p></p><p>That is where the unanswerable questions will be. </p><p></p><p>I don't know why these things are happening to all of us. But I think I do know that every one we meet is carrying as much as they can bear, too.</p><p></p><p>That includes your son. </p><p></p><p>It helped me to believe there was some purpose at work I could not see. </p><p></p><p>I found a place to balance in that imagery of the cloud and its unseen lining. </p><p></p><p>Believing in the lining is an act of faith.</p><p></p><p>Cedar</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Scent of Cedar *, post: 633762, member: 17461"] I read your post too, COM. There is nothing I can say to comfort you right now, except that, tough as this time is, you are handling it well. Sometimes COM, that is the thing we cannot see. We cannot see ourselves standing up, behaving ethically, balancing between the cloud and its unseen lining. You are fine. You are on course. You are walking that fine line between crazy and rage and betrayal and nothing anyone can say will change what this time is. But I can tell you it won't always feel like this. We are all right here, COM. Your imagery of that place of balance between the cloud and its lining gave me a way to stay present through so many confusing times. Let go, COM. This isn't about the girl. If it weren't her, it would be someone else. Remember difficult child daughter, going from one abusive male to the next? And oh, how I hated them, how I believed that they were victimizing difficult child. Remember when difficult child daughter would not come in off the streets because we would not take in the abusive male, too? Your son is, at last, showing an interest in someone else's well being. He is trying to do the right thing. Help him as you are able. Recovering told me once that if we resent the help we are giving, that is how we know we are enabling. Once we know the feeling of that place, then we know where to begin working on ourselves. That is where the unanswerable questions will be. I don't know why these things are happening to all of us. But I think I do know that every one we meet is carrying as much as they can bear, too. That includes your son. It helped me to believe there was some purpose at work I could not see. I found a place to balance in that imagery of the cloud and its unseen lining. Believing in the lining is an act of faith. Cedar [/QUOTE]
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