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Last night I was trying to get dinner ready when the kids came into the kitchen. All of a sudden I heard difficult child, who is 11, tell easy child, who is 6, that there is no Santa Clause and that Santa is really mom and dad. I told him to be quiet and close his mouth. His father got him alone and told him to stop telling easy child that because he still believes and we don't want to ruin the magic for him. difficult child said that he's tired of easy child talking about Santa when he knows that there is no Santa. Ugh! easy child says that he still believes, no matter what difficult child says, but it makes me angry.
Then, later on, difficult child asks me to come up to his room because he wants to talk to me. He tells me that he wants to quit orchestra. It's too much for him with all of his other homework and he can't take the stress of the added class. I wouldn't mind that he wanted to quit, but husband and I spent $800 this summer to buy this kid a violin because he said that he was going to play it all through middle and high school. Then, he got angry because we told him that we would take it back to the music store. difficult child says that's not fair. He still wants to play his violin, he just doesn't want to have to go to orchestra. Like I believe that he's going to play it. I told difficult child that if he is going to play it at home, fine. We will keep it, but once I see that violin sitting around collecting dust it's going right back to the store. Hopefully I will be able to get a good part of what I paid back for it.
I think that he wants to quit because the music teacher is giving all of the kids a test to see how far they have progressed this semester and since difficult child never practices he knows he probably isn't going to do well on it. I asked him if that was the reason and I got a nasty, "No! You don't know anything about it!" To me, when he reacts that way I know I hit the nail squarely on the head.
Pam
Then, later on, difficult child asks me to come up to his room because he wants to talk to me. He tells me that he wants to quit orchestra. It's too much for him with all of his other homework and he can't take the stress of the added class. I wouldn't mind that he wanted to quit, but husband and I spent $800 this summer to buy this kid a violin because he said that he was going to play it all through middle and high school. Then, he got angry because we told him that we would take it back to the music store. difficult child says that's not fair. He still wants to play his violin, he just doesn't want to have to go to orchestra. Like I believe that he's going to play it. I told difficult child that if he is going to play it at home, fine. We will keep it, but once I see that violin sitting around collecting dust it's going right back to the store. Hopefully I will be able to get a good part of what I paid back for it.
I think that he wants to quit because the music teacher is giving all of the kids a test to see how far they have progressed this semester and since difficult child never practices he knows he probably isn't going to do well on it. I asked him if that was the reason and I got a nasty, "No! You don't know anything about it!" To me, when he reacts that way I know I hit the nail squarely on the head.
Pam