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<blockquote data-quote="meowbunny" data-source="post: 188613" data-attributes="member: 3626"><p>(((((STEELY)))))</p><p> </p><p>Before you really start beating yourself up, do remember you tried to come up with alternative to the hospital. Matt refused it, not you, not his father. I don't care who you are, you have a right to be safe, especially in your own home. When a person claims to be God and you his minion, hits you in the back and knocks you to the ground, you are not safe. When you have to call for help outside while hiding in the bushes, you are not safe. Sadly, neither is your son. He is not safe from himself, he is not safe from doing serious damage to you, your home, his life. You had no choice but to seek help.</p><p> </p><p>The fact that you chose to have him sent to the best hospital you knew of rather than having him sent to jail speaks volumes. You did what was best for your son regardless of what it could ultimately mean to you. You had to have been angry and scared. It must have taken incredible strength to get him taken to the hospital rather than just letting the officers take him to jail. You should be so very proud of yourself.</p><p> </p><p>As to refusing to see him right now, I don't know if it is the right thing or not. What I do know is that if I'm angry with someone, I will say something I regret and that certainly is not what a young man needs when he is unstable. You have to be very angry regardless of how much you love him, regardless of how much you know/believe he couldn't help himself. You'd be superhuman if there wasn't a lot of anger there with all the other emotions. So, not seeing him for now is probably the best for him and for you. We parents need time to heal and forgive, too. Take this time to regroup, get your bearings, focus on you.</p><p> </p><p>The future isn't going away. Decisions don't have to be made today or tomorrow regarding Matt. He is coming of age and at the stage where moving out and being on his home is a high priority regardless of your decision. So, when the time comes, remind him that he is almost an adult and needs to start acting like one. Help him as much as you can but protect yourself. Just remember, YOU DESERVE TO BE SAFE. Period. End of converation. Finis. Done.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="meowbunny, post: 188613, member: 3626"] (((((STEELY))))) Before you really start beating yourself up, do remember you tried to come up with alternative to the hospital. Matt refused it, not you, not his father. I don't care who you are, you have a right to be safe, especially in your own home. When a person claims to be God and you his minion, hits you in the back and knocks you to the ground, you are not safe. When you have to call for help outside while hiding in the bushes, you are not safe. Sadly, neither is your son. He is not safe from himself, he is not safe from doing serious damage to you, your home, his life. You had no choice but to seek help. The fact that you chose to have him sent to the best hospital you knew of rather than having him sent to jail speaks volumes. You did what was best for your son regardless of what it could ultimately mean to you. You had to have been angry and scared. It must have taken incredible strength to get him taken to the hospital rather than just letting the officers take him to jail. You should be so very proud of yourself. As to refusing to see him right now, I don't know if it is the right thing or not. What I do know is that if I'm angry with someone, I will say something I regret and that certainly is not what a young man needs when he is unstable. You have to be very angry regardless of how much you love him, regardless of how much you know/believe he couldn't help himself. You'd be superhuman if there wasn't a lot of anger there with all the other emotions. So, not seeing him for now is probably the best for him and for you. We parents need time to heal and forgive, too. Take this time to regroup, get your bearings, focus on you. The future isn't going away. Decisions don't have to be made today or tomorrow regarding Matt. He is coming of age and at the stage where moving out and being on his home is a high priority regardless of your decision. So, when the time comes, remind him that he is almost an adult and needs to start acting like one. Help him as much as you can but protect yourself. Just remember, YOU DESERVE TO BE SAFE. Period. End of converation. Finis. Done. [/QUOTE]
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