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<blockquote data-quote="Steely" data-source="post: 492951" data-attributes="member: 3301"><p>What is Stop the World?</p><p></p><p>I am going to disagree a bit on the frying pan, as I think we should never meet violence with violence, because in my opinion it only breeds more violence. However, your point is excellent Susie. I did something similar and it worked just as well. He would get out of control mad with me, and threaten that he was going to hit me. It was almost always in the car, because I think he felt he had more control there. I would pull over the car, stop it, and get dead in his face - and say "bring it on buddy". "I am not scared of you." And then I would just stay deadlocked eye to eye with him until he turned away. </p><p></p><p>In retrospect it reminds me of what 2 dogs do when vying for dominance. They will stare each other down until, the submissive one turns the other way. Usually the submissive dog will yawn as if to say, yes, you are the Alpha, OK.</p><p></p><p>I can't tell you how well that worked. He was taller and stronger than me - but I was not scared of him. Deep inside I really was not - and by me stating that to him, and literally going head to head with him - he mentally reverted back to being isubmissive and would stop the threatening. I also think me getting dead in his face and telling him to "bring it on" snapped him back to the reality of the situation. Suddenly he was being called on his own cr@p -- and he really didn't want to hit me --- he just wanted to feel that power over me.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Steely, post: 492951, member: 3301"] What is Stop the World? I am going to disagree a bit on the frying pan, as I think we should never meet violence with violence, because in my opinion it only breeds more violence. However, your point is excellent Susie. I did something similar and it worked just as well. He would get out of control mad with me, and threaten that he was going to hit me. It was almost always in the car, because I think he felt he had more control there. I would pull over the car, stop it, and get dead in his face - and say "bring it on buddy". "I am not scared of you." And then I would just stay deadlocked eye to eye with him until he turned away. In retrospect it reminds me of what 2 dogs do when vying for dominance. They will stare each other down until, the submissive one turns the other way. Usually the submissive dog will yawn as if to say, yes, you are the Alpha, OK. I can't tell you how well that worked. He was taller and stronger than me - but I was not scared of him. Deep inside I really was not - and by me stating that to him, and literally going head to head with him - he mentally reverted back to being isubmissive and would stop the threatening. I also think me getting dead in his face and telling him to "bring it on" snapped him back to the reality of the situation. Suddenly he was being called on his own cr@p -- and he really didn't want to hit me --- he just wanted to feel that power over me. [/QUOTE]
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