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<blockquote data-quote="Nancy" data-source="post: 556145" data-attributes="member: 59"><p>Bailing her out of jail is not bailing her out of the trouble. She still has to get a public defender and go to court and take all the conseuqences and probably lose her job and have a record. We could get her out of it if we wanted, the arrest was flawed, the police threatened to arrest her if she did not open her bag, that is not allowed. Then he arrested her anyway. He did not see her take it. But we are not interferring, she needs to take what she gets. I feel somewhat the same as you do with mental illness. Clearly addiction is not her only problem and since she does have Borderline (BPD) this is a lifelong problem. She would have gotten out this morning on her own anyway and so maybe we should have let her spend the night in jail but she would have just called her drug dealer friends to bail her out so it is what it is. And you're right, we all have to do what we can live with and when we can't live with it anymore we won't. She isn't living here and we are not rescuing her, I say that's a big accomplishment.</p><p></p><p>Nancy</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Nancy, post: 556145, member: 59"] Bailing her out of jail is not bailing her out of the trouble. She still has to get a public defender and go to court and take all the conseuqences and probably lose her job and have a record. We could get her out of it if we wanted, the arrest was flawed, the police threatened to arrest her if she did not open her bag, that is not allowed. Then he arrested her anyway. He did not see her take it. But we are not interferring, she needs to take what she gets. I feel somewhat the same as you do with mental illness. Clearly addiction is not her only problem and since she does have Borderline (BPD) this is a lifelong problem. She would have gotten out this morning on her own anyway and so maybe we should have let her spend the night in jail but she would have just called her drug dealer friends to bail her out so it is what it is. And you're right, we all have to do what we can live with and when we can't live with it anymore we won't. She isn't living here and we are not rescuing her, I say that's a big accomplishment. Nancy [/QUOTE]
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