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<blockquote data-quote="AmericanGirl" data-source="post: 544856"><p>Thank you all for your prayers and support. Your replies brought me to tears. When almost everyone in your family is an addict, even after years of working through it, seeing other people care about me sometimes deeply affects me.</p><p></p><p>I want to share something I learned yesterday.</p><p></p><p>As a parent, we learn to put their needs over ours. I saw myself doing that when I set boundaries with him. Sure, I set boundaries but my intention was to do so in order to help him learn what he needed.</p><p></p><p>Yesterday, it became more personal. My head said, "you cannot do this to ME.". I think it long overdue. While I love him, what he is doing to me is wrong.</p><p></p><p>Enough....</p><p></p><p>On a funny note, one night this week, he inquired about my alcohol use. He has told the rehab that I'm an alcoholic. While I am not a teetotaler, I also don't have any substance abuse issues. But he still pushes... He explained to me he was asking because he had learned that many people in their 50s become alcoholics.</p><p></p><p>Sheeshhh....really? This is coming from YOU?</p><p></p><p>So I explained to difficult child that I was sure many did have issues after they retired and their kids left home. However, that wasn't the case with me. That while I had experienced those changes, I was truly happier than ever and had so much less stress that I would be fine.</p><p></p><p>Guess difficult child thinks I'm home crying in my beer cause he ain't here.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="AmericanGirl, post: 544856"] Thank you all for your prayers and support. Your replies brought me to tears. When almost everyone in your family is an addict, even after years of working through it, seeing other people care about me sometimes deeply affects me. I want to share something I learned yesterday. As a parent, we learn to put their needs over ours. I saw myself doing that when I set boundaries with him. Sure, I set boundaries but my intention was to do so in order to help him learn what he needed. Yesterday, it became more personal. My head said, "you cannot do this to ME.". I think it long overdue. While I love him, what he is doing to me is wrong. Enough.... On a funny note, one night this week, he inquired about my alcohol use. He has told the rehab that I'm an alcoholic. While I am not a teetotaler, I also don't have any substance abuse issues. But he still pushes... He explained to me he was asking because he had learned that many people in their 50s become alcoholics. Sheeshhh....really? This is coming from YOU? So I explained to difficult child that I was sure many did have issues after they retired and their kids left home. However, that wasn't the case with me. That while I had experienced those changes, I was truly happier than ever and had so much less stress that I would be fine. Guess difficult child thinks I'm home crying in my beer cause he ain't here. [/QUOTE]
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