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<blockquote data-quote="Nomad" data-source="post: 272978"><p>I'm a little confused Nancy...the event you just went to...was it graduation?</p><p>I guess it was only the Seniors Awards Ceremony. </p><p> </p><p>I too would consider going, assuming she is also going and is decently appropriate.</p><p> </p><p>Perhaps stay in the background. Limit your attendance/participation/emotional involvement.</p><p> </p><p>Listen, does she deserve more??? I think NOT. However, being the responsible mother that you are, I think you would want to attend. You do not have to put more into it than what is appropriate. </p><p> </p><p>It would be a loving thing for you to attend. It starts to get inappropriate when you do more than this for a child who is abusive to you...it doesn't teach her anything.</p><p> </p><p> </p><p>I wouldn't make a fuss. Perhaps go for a short time and leave. No nice fancy dinner or part afterwards. Perhaps you can have a little cake at your regular dinner. Invite a relative. A tiny celebration or NOT. Nothing overboard. She does NOT deserve it. Keep it on the down low...or do nothing at all if things are really ugly.</p><p> </p><p>It is good that she is graduating.</p><p> </p><p>This is a PLUS!!!!</p><p> </p><p>Stay as positive as posssible. Although this transition is ESPECIALLY difficult for those of us with difficult children, know and trust in your heart, all will be okay in the end.</p><p> </p><p>It is time for you to make changes...you sense it.</p><p> </p><p>difficult child will make changes too. It is just harder for them. And our role in all of it is confusing. Sometimes we have to incorporate "tough love." They often seem to have to learn things the "hard way." Let therapists figure it out....if difficult child is willing to go. It is what it is. </p><p> </p><p>Don't get sxcked up in the melodrama. <u>Just don't. </u></p><p> </p><p>I like what busywend said...if you are able...and there is not inappropriate behavior going on...I think it would be a good thing to attend the graduation.</p><p> </p><p> </p><p>Cling on to your Higher POwer and your husband for support. </p><p> </p><p>As slsh says...take care of yourself.</p><p> </p><p>It is going to be okay.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Nomad, post: 272978"] I'm a little confused Nancy...the event you just went to...was it graduation? I guess it was only the Seniors Awards Ceremony. I too would consider going, assuming she is also going and is decently appropriate. Perhaps stay in the background. Limit your attendance/participation/emotional involvement. Listen, does she deserve more??? I think NOT. However, being the responsible mother that you are, I think you would want to attend. You do not have to put more into it than what is appropriate. It would be a loving thing for you to attend. It starts to get inappropriate when you do more than this for a child who is abusive to you...it doesn't teach her anything. I wouldn't make a fuss. Perhaps go for a short time and leave. No nice fancy dinner or part afterwards. Perhaps you can have a little cake at your regular dinner. Invite a relative. A tiny celebration or NOT. Nothing overboard. She does NOT deserve it. Keep it on the down low...or do nothing at all if things are really ugly. It is good that she is graduating. This is a PLUS!!!! Stay as positive as posssible. Although this transition is ESPECIALLY difficult for those of us with difficult children, know and trust in your heart, all will be okay in the end. It is time for you to make changes...you sense it. difficult child will make changes too. It is just harder for them. And our role in all of it is confusing. Sometimes we have to incorporate "tough love." They often seem to have to learn things the "hard way." Let therapists figure it out....if difficult child is willing to go. It is what it is. Don't get sxcked up in the melodrama. [U]Just don't. [/U] I like what busywend said...if you are able...and there is not inappropriate behavior going on...I think it would be a good thing to attend the graduation. Cling on to your Higher POwer and your husband for support. As slsh says...take care of yourself. It is going to be okay. [/QUOTE]
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