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<blockquote data-quote="JLady" data-source="post: 225443" data-attributes="member: 6439"><p>The 35 days is awesome! Do you have some sort of reward program in place for that? </p><p> </p><p>I don't have much experience with difficult child's but I do have one grown child and one teenager. One way to stay in tough with them and to know what was going on in their "world" is to talk to them about who is mad at who and what is going on with friend 1, 2 & 3. I think I became the person my kids talked to about people instead of their friends. Mainly because I could be their confidant. I would ask questions and for details. Like in your case... "Why would so in so be mad at so and so? What happened?" What did they say to make you think they are mad? Would that make you mad?" Always placing the child in the position of the child under opposition. This also allowed me to know what was going on with the kids they were hanging out with and concerned with.</p><p> </p><p>I didn't look at it so much as boundaries but rather as guiding through the decision making process of right and wrong. Always pointing out right and wrong and how would you feel if you were in the same position. I don't know if this will help or not...... Good luck.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="JLady, post: 225443, member: 6439"] The 35 days is awesome! Do you have some sort of reward program in place for that? I don't have much experience with difficult child's but I do have one grown child and one teenager. One way to stay in tough with them and to know what was going on in their "world" is to talk to them about who is mad at who and what is going on with friend 1, 2 & 3. I think I became the person my kids talked to about people instead of their friends. Mainly because I could be their confidant. I would ask questions and for details. Like in your case... "Why would so in so be mad at so and so? What happened?" What did they say to make you think they are mad? Would that make you mad?" Always placing the child in the position of the child under opposition. This also allowed me to know what was going on with the kids they were hanging out with and concerned with. I didn't look at it so much as boundaries but rather as guiding through the decision making process of right and wrong. Always pointing out right and wrong and how would you feel if you were in the same position. I don't know if this will help or not...... Good luck. [/QUOTE]
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