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<blockquote data-quote="SuZir" data-source="post: 588730" data-attributes="member: 14557"><p>This keeps bothering me. I really don't get how calmly difficult child takes it. now that he has a name and explanation, he seems to consider these symptoms mostly a minor discomfort. Of course he doesn't like them, but if it would be me, i would be panicking all the time. He seems to be mostly frustrated with practical difficulties they cause to him. He for example doesn't like to be yelled twice or thrice or more about the same matter. Especially because he tends to be punished after first time if he doesn't correct his behaviour. And let's face it, he is yelled a lot. Part of it is his line of work, part is him being him. As I said, he should learn to advocate himself in that kind of matters, but of course difficult child has to try to solve it his own way. I mean, I do get that he doesn't want to talk about his dissociative symptoms to his coaches. They would sound very odd to someone not knowing about the topic (and scary also if you know a little) and it certainly is his private matter. But they do know he has anxiety issues. He could very well talk to them, or ask his sport psychologist to talk to them, and tell for example, that he at times tends to get high anxiety when he is yelled at and then sometimes he misses the actual reason or correction. And ask either to be corrected more calmly or to get a written note with most important points with him to read later after scolding. Wouldn't even be lying.</p><p></p><p>But of course difficult child doesn't do anything like that. He simply asks his team mates later what he was yelled this time for. And lies that he can't understand his coaches rather thick dialect. (Okay, in theory that could fly. It is very different dialect than one difficult child is more used to and it is not difficult child's first language.) I asked him if no one has asked how come he normally understand the coach just fine and decide not understand when yelled. Apparently not, but if someone does difficult child plans to claim that coaches accent get thicker when he is upset. And if there is no one he can ask for, then he just is yelled until coach either gives up or someone is there and difficult child can ask later and he feels there is nothing he can do to that.</p><p></p><p>I have to say that is <strong>very </strong>difficult child way to handle things. Proactivity really isn't his strong suit. Then again, I have to say he is rather stoic dude for a whiny dramaqueen extraordinary he is. At least when he decides to.</p><p></p><p>Well, these are his choices. But I really hate that he does to deal with this too.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="SuZir, post: 588730, member: 14557"] This keeps bothering me. I really don't get how calmly difficult child takes it. now that he has a name and explanation, he seems to consider these symptoms mostly a minor discomfort. Of course he doesn't like them, but if it would be me, i would be panicking all the time. He seems to be mostly frustrated with practical difficulties they cause to him. He for example doesn't like to be yelled twice or thrice or more about the same matter. Especially because he tends to be punished after first time if he doesn't correct his behaviour. And let's face it, he is yelled a lot. Part of it is his line of work, part is him being him. As I said, he should learn to advocate himself in that kind of matters, but of course difficult child has to try to solve it his own way. I mean, I do get that he doesn't want to talk about his dissociative symptoms to his coaches. They would sound very odd to someone not knowing about the topic (and scary also if you know a little) and it certainly is his private matter. But they do know he has anxiety issues. He could very well talk to them, or ask his sport psychologist to talk to them, and tell for example, that he at times tends to get high anxiety when he is yelled at and then sometimes he misses the actual reason or correction. And ask either to be corrected more calmly or to get a written note with most important points with him to read later after scolding. Wouldn't even be lying. But of course difficult child doesn't do anything like that. He simply asks his team mates later what he was yelled this time for. And lies that he can't understand his coaches rather thick dialect. (Okay, in theory that could fly. It is very different dialect than one difficult child is more used to and it is not difficult child's first language.) I asked him if no one has asked how come he normally understand the coach just fine and decide not understand when yelled. Apparently not, but if someone does difficult child plans to claim that coaches accent get thicker when he is upset. And if there is no one he can ask for, then he just is yelled until coach either gives up or someone is there and difficult child can ask later and he feels there is nothing he can do to that. I have to say that is [B]very [/B]difficult child way to handle things. Proactivity really isn't his strong suit. Then again, I have to say he is rather stoic dude for a whiny dramaqueen extraordinary he is. At least when he decides to. Well, these are his choices. But I really hate that he does to deal with this too. [/QUOTE]
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