Okay so I read the book The explosive child an it works! Usually It is a struggle to get his toe nails and finger nails cut. He always has a melt down becuase he says its too short and it is very hard to do it in the first place. So this time I said we need to trim them and he can do it himself if he would like. HE say YES, and was really excited about it! I asked him if I could help when it look like he was having a hard time and he was okay with that. Now he is doing his finger nails byhimself! No meltdown no crying or whining. Its wonderful... :smile: