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<blockquote data-quote="Mattsmom277" data-source="post: 321579" data-attributes="member: 4264"><p>I think your plan sounds perfectly reasonable. </p><p></p><p>I am on a VERY limited budget. I'm so grateful that although easy child's dad pays a joke of a support amount (especially considering his current wealth) he has taken over making all major purchases of clothing for easy child. It is such a relief of financial strain. She changes sizes where difficult child is pretty much grown now. He can wear his clothing longer.</p><p></p><p>We have compromised on things, Matt and I. He can have a expensive pair of runners. He has huge feet (size 13) so cheap shoes that look cool on other kids, stand out like boats on his feet. Also he has flat feet and they point outwards, another source of embarassment for him. So we struck a bargain. Own one pair of GOOD shoes, but he MUST take care of them so that they last as long as possible. No buying new ones simply because a trendy new style is out there. He has chosen mostly name brand basketball shoes that tend to stay trendy long term. </p><p>Since he is done growing for the most part, he has also been allowed more money for a more pricey coat. One for winter, one for the other seasons that can work in warmer weather/rain and with a sweater under can work in cooler but not quite winter temps. He again chose coats that would remain sharp looking over several seasons. </p><p>Due to the pricey footwear and jackets, he is not buying pricey jeans. We stick to inexpensive solid colored (no trendy markings) jeans in a wide leg cut that suits his slim frame and doesn't go out of style. Nobody can see the tags anyhow to know the label on them. So long as the jean is a heavier one that won't tear easily and is a shade of blue that isn't that "tacky" shade (we all know that one don't we? lol) he is content with the cheaper jeans. I tend to keep my eye out for massive liquidation sales at end of seasons. The trendier marked jeans sell quicker. Often the traditional styles are left at season ends etc. I've gotten many a pair of great jeans for $10 or so. </p><p>He gets a few printed tshirts (bands on them etc) as gifts at birthdays, Christmas etc. But he pretty much gets solid tshirts without designs. They are inexpensive and don't go out of style. He loves hoodie sweaters. So he has a range of solid colored hoodies, brand name not needed, to layer over his tshirts. His outfits end up trendy when balanced with good shoes and a name brand coat. He gets a trendy expensive hoodie at birthdays and sometimes at Christmas. They can be very pricey, so when I see one at a major discount, I tuck it away for a holiday to gift to him. </p><p>He really is very good at balancing his wants vs his needs, and compromising on certain things. I think it is a good lesson to teach our kids. They can't have it all. They truly can fit in and look fashionable without breaking the bank.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Mattsmom277, post: 321579, member: 4264"] I think your plan sounds perfectly reasonable. I am on a VERY limited budget. I'm so grateful that although easy child's dad pays a joke of a support amount (especially considering his current wealth) he has taken over making all major purchases of clothing for easy child. It is such a relief of financial strain. She changes sizes where difficult child is pretty much grown now. He can wear his clothing longer. We have compromised on things, Matt and I. He can have a expensive pair of runners. He has huge feet (size 13) so cheap shoes that look cool on other kids, stand out like boats on his feet. Also he has flat feet and they point outwards, another source of embarassment for him. So we struck a bargain. Own one pair of GOOD shoes, but he MUST take care of them so that they last as long as possible. No buying new ones simply because a trendy new style is out there. He has chosen mostly name brand basketball shoes that tend to stay trendy long term. Since he is done growing for the most part, he has also been allowed more money for a more pricey coat. One for winter, one for the other seasons that can work in warmer weather/rain and with a sweater under can work in cooler but not quite winter temps. He again chose coats that would remain sharp looking over several seasons. Due to the pricey footwear and jackets, he is not buying pricey jeans. We stick to inexpensive solid colored (no trendy markings) jeans in a wide leg cut that suits his slim frame and doesn't go out of style. Nobody can see the tags anyhow to know the label on them. So long as the jean is a heavier one that won't tear easily and is a shade of blue that isn't that "tacky" shade (we all know that one don't we? lol) he is content with the cheaper jeans. I tend to keep my eye out for massive liquidation sales at end of seasons. The trendier marked jeans sell quicker. Often the traditional styles are left at season ends etc. I've gotten many a pair of great jeans for $10 or so. He gets a few printed tshirts (bands on them etc) as gifts at birthdays, Christmas etc. But he pretty much gets solid tshirts without designs. They are inexpensive and don't go out of style. He loves hoodie sweaters. So he has a range of solid colored hoodies, brand name not needed, to layer over his tshirts. His outfits end up trendy when balanced with good shoes and a name brand coat. He gets a trendy expensive hoodie at birthdays and sometimes at Christmas. They can be very pricey, so when I see one at a major discount, I tuck it away for a holiday to gift to him. He really is very good at balancing his wants vs his needs, and compromising on certain things. I think it is a good lesson to teach our kids. They can't have it all. They truly can fit in and look fashionable without breaking the bank. [/QUOTE]
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