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<blockquote data-quote="P-nut2004" data-source="post: 426071" data-attributes="member: 11740"><p>Star: Thank you! I think this idea will work well for her if we can stay at it long enough for her to figure out that she has to stay there quietly to get out. I have somewhat done this before but I always felt like I was being mean and torturing her by making sure she knew we were all having fun without her. Hopefully this will show her that it isn't always fun to have everyone's attention, which would be a fabulous change here! She is also used to using a timer for time out and resetting it/ adding minutes if she wont stay there quietly. In fact I refuse to start her time until she stops screaming so she has quit pitching a fit about going to the corner, its just an ordeal to keep her there. I hadn't thought of us all watching her, we've always done the opposite & left her there alone (but where I could see her).</p><p></p><p>As for the bulldog story, I totally expect this to happen at some point. We have two pitbulls who are so well behaved and so loving but she tests them. Our male, Zeus, is huge (90lbs) & just turned 2, and she learned not to mess with him much because he doesn't get mean he gets hyper and will knock her down, step on her etc, he's like a bull in a china shop when he's wound up. Our poor female, KoKo, was raised around our kids & others & rescue dogs, she is 9 yrs old and we have trained her so well she almost never shows any aggression or even dominance toward ppl or other dogs. So L loves to torture her and somedays I honestly wish she would atleast nip at L and scare her but she tolerates it for a while then runs and hides instead. The chihuahuas on the other hand will bite her, yesterday our 2lb teacup 'Winston' literally attacked her, bit her several times because she picked him up (which she's not allowed to do anyway) and proceeded to squeeze him and kiss all over his head, which he hates. I heard the commotion in her room & went to check, L started whining about her arms & I looked at them and told her she deserved it, he has a right to defend himself & she wasn't bleeding so I refused to do anything for her. I'm honestly scared she will really hurt him (she already killed K&Cs guinea pig as retaliation) and I wouldn't have gotten one that tiny 'on purpose' he was a rescue that sortof fell into our laps (I'm still considering placing him but husband is absolutely in love with him). I hope we don't have to deal with her being bit badly at any point because here they will take the dog if its one of our pits and most likely put it down & that would not be fair because they take alot from L & never fight back.</p><p></p><p>Susie: I like the mad libs & jokes idea, K & C will get a kick out of that and I want hear as much of the "Why do <strong>we</strong> have to sit here when <strong>she's</strong> in trouble?". Also I LOVE the frames idea for the 'gallery' wall. And the box is a great idea too, she has a tendency to be a hoarder and already has a full size paper box in her room for saved art work and 'in progress' artwork, if it gets full she has to go thru it and throw some away. She even saves any boxes etc with pictures she wants to cut out and use so it can get crazy. I think I'm going to make a 'morgue' box/folder (it's an art term for a collection of pictures you want to use) and limit her on how much of that she keeps too. Unfortunately my G'ma created that issue, she has always sent the girls tons of pictures she cuts out for them, K & C never cared but L keeps all of it. FWIW G'ma is a serious hoarder, there is one path thru her whole house just wide enough for one person, so I def want to curb this behavior now, especially since I have my own 'hording tendencies' and if it weren't for husband Id have ALOT more 'stuff'.</p><p></p><p>Thank You guys!! I love this place! <img src="/community/styles/default/xenforo/smilies/emoticons/bigsmile.gif" class="smilie" loading="lazy" alt=":bigsmile:" title="big smile :bigsmile:" data-shortname=":bigsmile:" /></p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="P-nut2004, post: 426071, member: 11740"] Star: Thank you! I think this idea will work well for her if we can stay at it long enough for her to figure out that she has to stay there quietly to get out. I have somewhat done this before but I always felt like I was being mean and torturing her by making sure she knew we were all having fun without her. Hopefully this will show her that it isn't always fun to have everyone's attention, which would be a fabulous change here! She is also used to using a timer for time out and resetting it/ adding minutes if she wont stay there quietly. In fact I refuse to start her time until she stops screaming so she has quit pitching a fit about going to the corner, its just an ordeal to keep her there. I hadn't thought of us all watching her, we've always done the opposite & left her there alone (but where I could see her). As for the bulldog story, I totally expect this to happen at some point. We have two pitbulls who are so well behaved and so loving but she tests them. Our male, Zeus, is huge (90lbs) & just turned 2, and she learned not to mess with him much because he doesn't get mean he gets hyper and will knock her down, step on her etc, he's like a bull in a china shop when he's wound up. Our poor female, KoKo, was raised around our kids & others & rescue dogs, she is 9 yrs old and we have trained her so well she almost never shows any aggression or even dominance toward ppl or other dogs. So L loves to torture her and somedays I honestly wish she would atleast nip at L and scare her but she tolerates it for a while then runs and hides instead. The chihuahuas on the other hand will bite her, yesterday our 2lb teacup 'Winston' literally attacked her, bit her several times because she picked him up (which she's not allowed to do anyway) and proceeded to squeeze him and kiss all over his head, which he hates. I heard the commotion in her room & went to check, L started whining about her arms & I looked at them and told her she deserved it, he has a right to defend himself & she wasn't bleeding so I refused to do anything for her. I'm honestly scared she will really hurt him (she already killed K&Cs guinea pig as retaliation) and I wouldn't have gotten one that tiny 'on purpose' he was a rescue that sortof fell into our laps (I'm still considering placing him but husband is absolutely in love with him). I hope we don't have to deal with her being bit badly at any point because here they will take the dog if its one of our pits and most likely put it down & that would not be fair because they take alot from L & never fight back. Susie: I like the mad libs & jokes idea, K & C will get a kick out of that and I want hear as much of the "Why do [B]we[/B] have to sit here when [B]she's[/B] in trouble?". Also I LOVE the frames idea for the 'gallery' wall. And the box is a great idea too, she has a tendency to be a hoarder and already has a full size paper box in her room for saved art work and 'in progress' artwork, if it gets full she has to go thru it and throw some away. She even saves any boxes etc with pictures she wants to cut out and use so it can get crazy. I think I'm going to make a 'morgue' box/folder (it's an art term for a collection of pictures you want to use) and limit her on how much of that she keeps too. Unfortunately my G'ma created that issue, she has always sent the girls tons of pictures she cuts out for them, K & C never cared but L keeps all of it. FWIW G'ma is a serious hoarder, there is one path thru her whole house just wide enough for one person, so I def want to curb this behavior now, especially since I have my own 'hording tendencies' and if it weren't for husband Id have ALOT more 'stuff'. Thank You guys!! I love this place! :bigsmile: [/QUOTE]
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