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<blockquote data-quote="busywend" data-source="post: 512168" data-attributes="member: 391"><p>YES!! ME!! I DO!!! And can you tell I am thrilled about it??!! haha! </p><p></p><p>My difficult child gave me quite the time when she was about 11-12 years old. ADD, Obsessive Compulsive Disorder (OCD), Tics, anxiety....you get the drill. Phone calls from school daily. Very stressful home life that put me into a depression for the first time in my life. It got to the point that she was doing some dangerous things that could really impact her life. Claimed she was in juvie and had a leg monitor, was on house arrest, threatened to kill someone with a gun (do not have one in the house) and created her own stalker on IM and was sending people conversations of the IMs where her & her stalker were going back and forth. The straw that changed everything was when she came at me with a hammer. </p><p></p><p>I moved her to her dad's house (about 15 minute drive away) for 1 year. Different school district. She honeymooned for about 6 months and then it started there, too. When the year was up, I sold my house and moved to his town. We shared time with her after that. 1 week on, 1 week off. She seemed to do well with different parental units and you could tell at about day 5 she was getting antsy to move along. </p><p></p><p>She graduated. She got a part time job. She was never one to socialize much. No drugs or drinking or sneaking out ever. Thank GOD!! </p><p></p><p>Today she is a fabulous woman to be around!! I enjoy her company....of course I do not live with her. She has her own apartment with her boyfriend. She is working full time (no college) and just bought her very first car all on her own with her own insurance. </p><p></p><p>I am extremely proud of her!! Was I lucky? Did I do something right? Who knows!! </p><p></p><p>One thing I promote here on the site is to detach from the behaviors. Do not take them personally. I tried to get her step-mom to understand that one - it is a hard concept. I changed parenting style to non-parenting. Another difficult concept. But, when I was not in her every minute she was better. I parented by example and by suggestion. I could not 'tell her what to do' or it turned out horrible. Who knows if that is my something right or not. But, I feel like it made things better.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="busywend, post: 512168, member: 391"] YES!! ME!! I DO!!! And can you tell I am thrilled about it??!! haha! My difficult child gave me quite the time when she was about 11-12 years old. ADD, Obsessive Compulsive Disorder (OCD), Tics, anxiety....you get the drill. Phone calls from school daily. Very stressful home life that put me into a depression for the first time in my life. It got to the point that she was doing some dangerous things that could really impact her life. Claimed she was in juvie and had a leg monitor, was on house arrest, threatened to kill someone with a gun (do not have one in the house) and created her own stalker on IM and was sending people conversations of the IMs where her & her stalker were going back and forth. The straw that changed everything was when she came at me with a hammer. I moved her to her dad's house (about 15 minute drive away) for 1 year. Different school district. She honeymooned for about 6 months and then it started there, too. When the year was up, I sold my house and moved to his town. We shared time with her after that. 1 week on, 1 week off. She seemed to do well with different parental units and you could tell at about day 5 she was getting antsy to move along. She graduated. She got a part time job. She was never one to socialize much. No drugs or drinking or sneaking out ever. Thank GOD!! Today she is a fabulous woman to be around!! I enjoy her company....of course I do not live with her. She has her own apartment with her boyfriend. She is working full time (no college) and just bought her very first car all on her own with her own insurance. I am extremely proud of her!! Was I lucky? Did I do something right? Who knows!! One thing I promote here on the site is to detach from the behaviors. Do not take them personally. I tried to get her step-mom to understand that one - it is a hard concept. I changed parenting style to non-parenting. Another difficult concept. But, when I was not in her every minute she was better. I parented by example and by suggestion. I could not 'tell her what to do' or it turned out horrible. Who knows if that is my something right or not. But, I feel like it made things better. [/QUOTE]
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