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<blockquote data-quote="BusynMember" data-source="post: 512267" data-attributes="member: 1550"><p>Success IS relative. My son on the autism spectrum is eighteen and is doing 80% better than we dreamed because he was so low functioning at first. However, at eighteen he is ready to graduate. He is not interested in college and we are not going to push it because, if you knew him, you'd know that he needs to focus on life function rather than academics. He isn't going to ever have a high paying career, but he is a very happy young man. He works in a sheltered workshop right now and loves it. He is in the Special Olympics and has learned to love bowling. It is touching to see how close the special olymics adults are to one another...they are far kinder to one another than those who live in the rat race. He will be able to live on his own in an assisted living apartment. In fact, he is looking foward to it. We just don't think he is ready, and we are still his legal guardians. He WANTED us to remain his legal guardians...so we went to court. I do want to clarify that Son has not been a behavior problem since about age four so he can assimilate. But his overall school achievement is in the 5th-6th grade level. We feel he has done better than we dreamed. His IQ has tested between 75-110, but we feel it's closer to the 75. This is a success story for my son, who was adopted at age two and had been born with drugs and syphillis in his system. He is very contented person, much more so than many who are difficult child's. Then there is my daughter...</p><p></p><p>She was a hardcore drug addict until age nineteen. And when I say hardcore, I mean she has told us she used everything from pot and alcohol to speed, meth, coke, heroin (once). No, you are not automatically hooked on heroin if you just use it once because she never ever went near it again...it scared her. Nothing stopped her from using when she wanted to use and she tried to quit a few times, but her "friends" pushed her too hard to use and she felt she had to. At one point, somebody was threatening her life, saying she owed him money (he was a drug dealer). So she was in a very dark place.</p><p></p><p>Daughter moved to Illinois, a state away, to live with her very straight arrow brother who laid down the law. She knew that if she was kicked out of his place, she would be homeless. So she listened to his rules, found a job, walked to and from (she had no car), helped clean the place up for Brother and his roommates, cooked, restrained her behavior, did not smoke cigarettes in his house (she eventually quit smoking), and met her current SO. This was eight years ago. </p><p></p><p>She is clean now. She has a new career (went back to college), has her own house, and is very anti-drug. She DOES think pot should be legal. But that's it. She tries to use homopathetic cures for illness rather than even taking an aspirin. She has a great job. She is a sweetheart and we are very close. Without rehab, without intervention, she decided to quit and she did. There is a lot of hope, BUT...the person has to want to quit very badly. She had a few relapses along the way before she went to Illinois...she was quitting and going back (see the part about her "friends"). In her case she needed a fresh start in order to complete what she was trying to do. She has had no relapses in eight years.</p><p></p><p>Keep the Faith <img src="data:image/gif;base64,R0lGODlhAQABAIAAAAAAAP///yH5BAEAAAAALAAAAAABAAEAAAIBRAA7" class="smilie smilie--sprite smilie--sprite1" alt=":)" title="Smile :)" loading="lazy" data-shortname=":)" /></p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="BusynMember, post: 512267, member: 1550"] Success IS relative. My son on the autism spectrum is eighteen and is doing 80% better than we dreamed because he was so low functioning at first. However, at eighteen he is ready to graduate. He is not interested in college and we are not going to push it because, if you knew him, you'd know that he needs to focus on life function rather than academics. He isn't going to ever have a high paying career, but he is a very happy young man. He works in a sheltered workshop right now and loves it. He is in the Special Olympics and has learned to love bowling. It is touching to see how close the special olymics adults are to one another...they are far kinder to one another than those who live in the rat race. He will be able to live on his own in an assisted living apartment. In fact, he is looking foward to it. We just don't think he is ready, and we are still his legal guardians. He WANTED us to remain his legal guardians...so we went to court. I do want to clarify that Son has not been a behavior problem since about age four so he can assimilate. But his overall school achievement is in the 5th-6th grade level. We feel he has done better than we dreamed. His IQ has tested between 75-110, but we feel it's closer to the 75. This is a success story for my son, who was adopted at age two and had been born with drugs and syphillis in his system. He is very contented person, much more so than many who are difficult child's. Then there is my daughter... She was a hardcore drug addict until age nineteen. And when I say hardcore, I mean she has told us she used everything from pot and alcohol to speed, meth, coke, heroin (once). No, you are not automatically hooked on heroin if you just use it once because she never ever went near it again...it scared her. Nothing stopped her from using when she wanted to use and she tried to quit a few times, but her "friends" pushed her too hard to use and she felt she had to. At one point, somebody was threatening her life, saying she owed him money (he was a drug dealer). So she was in a very dark place. Daughter moved to Illinois, a state away, to live with her very straight arrow brother who laid down the law. She knew that if she was kicked out of his place, she would be homeless. So she listened to his rules, found a job, walked to and from (she had no car), helped clean the place up for Brother and his roommates, cooked, restrained her behavior, did not smoke cigarettes in his house (she eventually quit smoking), and met her current SO. This was eight years ago. She is clean now. She has a new career (went back to college), has her own house, and is very anti-drug. She DOES think pot should be legal. But that's it. She tries to use homopathetic cures for illness rather than even taking an aspirin. She has a great job. She is a sweetheart and we are very close. Without rehab, without intervention, she decided to quit and she did. There is a lot of hope, BUT...the person has to want to quit very badly. She had a few relapses along the way before she went to Illinois...she was quitting and going back (see the part about her "friends"). In her case she needed a fresh start in order to complete what she was trying to do. She has had no relapses in eight years. Keep the Faith :) [/QUOTE]
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