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does anyone know parent rights when difficult child refuses to go to school?
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<blockquote data-quote="confuzzled" data-source="post: 576567" data-attributes="member: 8831"><p><em><strong>He says things like the work is too hard, it's too much for him, the teachers go too fast and he can't understand it all, </strong>( he is usually crying and all upset when saying this) etc... then on the other hand, some days he says he just doesn't feel like going because he hates school and wants to be left alone and is terribly defiant regarding going to school</em></p><p><em></em></p><p><em></em>i think this is the truth. he's at an age where it becomes tough to rely on your internal "smarts"--you have to not only learn, but think. </p><p>i think if he doesnt have an IEP, its time to request, in writing, a formal assessment from the school to see where there are areas of weakness.</p><p></p><p>if he does, than its probably time to review his prior assessments and call a meeting to see if you can add things to make it easier for him. </p><p></p><p>with difficult child's its sometimes hard to get to the root of the actual problem but maybe if you just ask him he'll give you more specific information (in a conversation, not in the middle of hysteria). it can be hard to really hear what they say....it might be something as simple as, "well, i hate my math teacher because she makes us do 100 problems"....which to a grown up the answer is, so, <em>we</em> had to do 200!, but to a difficult child with poor coping skills is a giant mountain to overcome. i try to ask mine throughout the year so i can get a picture of what <em>she</em> perceives as too hard/too fast/whatever and often her answers are enlightening....and more often than not, legitimate for <em>her. </em></p><p></p><p>but sometimes you have to reallly dig to get to the root of the problem and get them to elaborate on specifics. since you have a social worker on board maybe you can get her to problem solve with you rather than just threaten you.....i know, easier said than done!</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="confuzzled, post: 576567, member: 8831"] [I][B]He says things like the work is too hard, it's too much for him, the teachers go too fast and he can't understand it all, [/B]( he is usually crying and all upset when saying this) etc... then on the other hand, some days he says he just doesn't feel like going because he hates school and wants to be left alone and is terribly defiant regarding going to school [/I]i think this is the truth. he's at an age where it becomes tough to rely on your internal "smarts"--you have to not only learn, but think. i think if he doesnt have an IEP, its time to request, in writing, a formal assessment from the school to see where there are areas of weakness. if he does, than its probably time to review his prior assessments and call a meeting to see if you can add things to make it easier for him. with difficult child's its sometimes hard to get to the root of the actual problem but maybe if you just ask him he'll give you more specific information (in a conversation, not in the middle of hysteria). it can be hard to really hear what they say....it might be something as simple as, "well, i hate my math teacher because she makes us do 100 problems"....which to a grown up the answer is, so, [I]we[/I] had to do 200!, but to a difficult child with poor coping skills is a giant mountain to overcome. i try to ask mine throughout the year so i can get a picture of what [I]she[/I] perceives as too hard/too fast/whatever and often her answers are enlightening....and more often than not, legitimate for [I]her. [/I] but sometimes you have to reallly dig to get to the root of the problem and get them to elaborate on specifics. since you have a social worker on board maybe you can get her to problem solve with you rather than just threaten you.....i know, easier said than done! [/QUOTE]
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