rejectedmom
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difficult child 1 is 33 diagnosed BiPolar (BP) but didn't like the diagnosis so went elsewhere and was diagnosis narcissistic. (I think she is both). She is married has a beautiful home and she has a baby born in Nov.
Four months after she got pregnant her sister in law got pregnant also. For difficult child's entire pregnancy we had to listen to all her woes about how sister in law got pregnant to compete and take the focus off of her. First we tried to reason with her to no avail then we tried to jus change the subject to no avail so then we just basicly let her rant without making much comment beyond UHuh so as not to upset her. When her mother in law gave her a shower she wasn't going to go because sister in law (yes mother in law's daughter) was going to be there and she might take the focus off of difficult child 1. Then when easy child 1 and I gave difficult child 1 a shower she didn't want us to invite mother in law & sister in law for the same reason even though they had invited us to theirs.
Besides the sister in law is competing garbage difficult child 1 had every kind of concievable pregnancy problem. (most of them in her head although at the end she did have problems and was induced early). I got calls almost daily about is this normal is that normal what should I do.... Now her baby is here and he is perfect and beautiful and such a good baby. You'd think that would be enough to get her into a different mode but no.
Her sister in law's baby shower was this past weekend and we all went. She had been asked to send her husband and the baby to his grandmother's house where a party had been set up for the men. The plan was that they would stay there until 2 hours before the shower was over so the sister in law could have the spotlight on her for a while. Then they would come up to the mother in law's house (just around the block) to introduce my grandson to mother in law's friends and family who were attending the shower. But my difficult child and her husband disrespected the mother in law's wishes and brought the baby into the shower and of course everyone was oooohing and ahhing over him. The sister in law for whom the shower was given took it well, not saying a thing, just going on with the party activities as planned.
So Sunday my difficult child 1 calles me and says that the sister in law made a face at her when she tried to get past her to retrieve the diaper bag (not that I could see). She went on as to what a B____ the sister in law is. (This woman embroidered an entire quilt for the baby in difficult child 1's nursery theme). She went on about how awful they were to try to exclude her baby from a party where other children were present (non of these other kids would take the focus off the guest of honor) it was cruel and it isn't fair and why should her baby have to suffer bla bla bla.
I was on my way out the door when difficult child 1 called and even had my coat on. I just said "I am really not comfortable talking about this. I think you and your husband have to figure out the family dynamics and find a way to live with them. I have to go your father is wating for me". She hung up on me only to call back immediately (before I could put the reciever back in the cradle and start ranting on how I wasn't there for her during her pre-pregnancy infertility problems. (She never told us she was trying which she readily admits), that we all droped her like a hot potatoe when the baby was born (I rubbed her legs for over two hours, catered to her, got ice chips etc but stopped when she asked me to take some pictures),
I didn't engage even though I was pretty angry with her tirade. She then changed gears and asked me if and when I would make new curtains for her nursery (I made the first set to her spefications but she changed her mind and now wants something different). I told her I would get over and measure sometime this week.
Well today I called my easy child 1 who told me that when she saw difficult child 1 yesterday she started ranting over me again. Needless to say I am not hurrying over there. I am so sick of difficult children and their garbage mememe thinking. I am ready to just tell her to leave me out of her life. It is easier than constantly wondering if I should pick up the phone when she calls. UG!
Thanks I needed to get that out. Now I'm gonna go meet husband for dinner at one of our favorite resturants and try to recapture my inner peace and joy -RM
Four months after she got pregnant her sister in law got pregnant also. For difficult child's entire pregnancy we had to listen to all her woes about how sister in law got pregnant to compete and take the focus off of her. First we tried to reason with her to no avail then we tried to jus change the subject to no avail so then we just basicly let her rant without making much comment beyond UHuh so as not to upset her. When her mother in law gave her a shower she wasn't going to go because sister in law (yes mother in law's daughter) was going to be there and she might take the focus off of difficult child 1. Then when easy child 1 and I gave difficult child 1 a shower she didn't want us to invite mother in law & sister in law for the same reason even though they had invited us to theirs.
Besides the sister in law is competing garbage difficult child 1 had every kind of concievable pregnancy problem. (most of them in her head although at the end she did have problems and was induced early). I got calls almost daily about is this normal is that normal what should I do.... Now her baby is here and he is perfect and beautiful and such a good baby. You'd think that would be enough to get her into a different mode but no.
Her sister in law's baby shower was this past weekend and we all went. She had been asked to send her husband and the baby to his grandmother's house where a party had been set up for the men. The plan was that they would stay there until 2 hours before the shower was over so the sister in law could have the spotlight on her for a while. Then they would come up to the mother in law's house (just around the block) to introduce my grandson to mother in law's friends and family who were attending the shower. But my difficult child and her husband disrespected the mother in law's wishes and brought the baby into the shower and of course everyone was oooohing and ahhing over him. The sister in law for whom the shower was given took it well, not saying a thing, just going on with the party activities as planned.
So Sunday my difficult child 1 calles me and says that the sister in law made a face at her when she tried to get past her to retrieve the diaper bag (not that I could see). She went on as to what a B____ the sister in law is. (This woman embroidered an entire quilt for the baby in difficult child 1's nursery theme). She went on about how awful they were to try to exclude her baby from a party where other children were present (non of these other kids would take the focus off the guest of honor) it was cruel and it isn't fair and why should her baby have to suffer bla bla bla.
I was on my way out the door when difficult child 1 called and even had my coat on. I just said "I am really not comfortable talking about this. I think you and your husband have to figure out the family dynamics and find a way to live with them. I have to go your father is wating for me". She hung up on me only to call back immediately (before I could put the reciever back in the cradle and start ranting on how I wasn't there for her during her pre-pregnancy infertility problems. (She never told us she was trying which she readily admits), that we all droped her like a hot potatoe when the baby was born (I rubbed her legs for over two hours, catered to her, got ice chips etc but stopped when she asked me to take some pictures),
I didn't engage even though I was pretty angry with her tirade. She then changed gears and asked me if and when I would make new curtains for her nursery (I made the first set to her spefications but she changed her mind and now wants something different). I told her I would get over and measure sometime this week.
Well today I called my easy child 1 who told me that when she saw difficult child 1 yesterday she started ranting over me again. Needless to say I am not hurrying over there. I am so sick of difficult children and their garbage mememe thinking. I am ready to just tell her to leave me out of her life. It is easier than constantly wondering if I should pick up the phone when she calls. UG!
Thanks I needed to get that out. Now I'm gonna go meet husband for dinner at one of our favorite resturants and try to recapture my inner peace and joy -RM
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