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Don't know what to call this feeling. Indifference maybe?
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<blockquote data-quote="hearts and roses" data-source="post: 427003" data-attributes="member: 2211"><p><span style="color: #483d8b">First, big gentle hugs to you. And happy mothers day.</span></p><p><span style="color: #483d8b"></span></p><p><span style="color: #483d8b">As time moved along while my easy child was at college, it became apparent that she felt she knew everything and poor pitiful me knew nothing. In my moments of frustration with difficult child, easy child would give me one liners, i.e., 'maybe if you didn't...." fill in the blank. And it was all the time. Then it was my cooking, or how we eat, or what we do for entertainment. Seemed after 45+ years on this earth, H and I had gotten it all completely wrong! Oh my! What to do? Last year, just as we were all walking on eggshells and easy child couldn't bear to be with her ignorant, loud, parents anymore, she moved into her then boyfriend's home, which happened to house his two very quiet, reverent -extremely religious- parents. Before she moved in with them, she would tell H and I about how they were so kind to one another and how they never argued (because the wife was subservient to her H). Anyway, within two months, she just couldn't stand it anymore and came home, humble. She is still picky and sometimes critical, but not annoyingly so. We can speak up for ourselves and do.</span></p><p><span style="color: #483d8b"></span></p><p><span style="color: #483d8b">I agree with hound that you need to have a heart to heart with easy child. She is your easy child and you are the mom. She's at a phase outside of what she grew up with and it's normal for her to begin making personal choices about her life, with you and without you. You will need to toughen up your armor a bit to deal with this aspect of spending time with easy child. Not until she is on her own, possibly with her very own children will she realize. But in the meantime you can have a better relationship. </span></p><p><span style="color: #483d8b"></span></p><p><span style="color: #483d8b">In regards to the God thing, well, I am not one to talk about God so I'll just keep my thoughts to myself. Suffice it to say that she needs to respect your belief system and not shove hers down your throat.</span></p><p><span style="color: #483d8b"></span></p><p><span style="color: #483d8b">And the difficult child situation, well, it is what it is. Are you in any sort of counseling? You may need support JUST FOR YOU in learning how to cope being home alone and caring for yourself for the first time in a longtime, no?</span></p><p><span style="color: #483d8b"></span></p><p><span style="color: #483d8b">I'm sorry mothers day was such a disappointment. Like many of us do, next year plan something special for yourself and then get up and do it. Hugs.</span></p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="hearts and roses, post: 427003, member: 2211"] [COLOR="#483d8b"]First, big gentle hugs to you. And happy mothers day. As time moved along while my easy child was at college, it became apparent that she felt she knew everything and poor pitiful me knew nothing. In my moments of frustration with difficult child, easy child would give me one liners, i.e., 'maybe if you didn't...." fill in the blank. And it was all the time. Then it was my cooking, or how we eat, or what we do for entertainment. Seemed after 45+ years on this earth, H and I had gotten it all completely wrong! Oh my! What to do? Last year, just as we were all walking on eggshells and easy child couldn't bear to be with her ignorant, loud, parents anymore, she moved into her then boyfriend's home, which happened to house his two very quiet, reverent -extremely religious- parents. Before she moved in with them, she would tell H and I about how they were so kind to one another and how they never argued (because the wife was subservient to her H). Anyway, within two months, she just couldn't stand it anymore and came home, humble. She is still picky and sometimes critical, but not annoyingly so. We can speak up for ourselves and do. I agree with hound that you need to have a heart to heart with easy child. She is your easy child and you are the mom. She's at a phase outside of what she grew up with and it's normal for her to begin making personal choices about her life, with you and without you. You will need to toughen up your armor a bit to deal with this aspect of spending time with easy child. Not until she is on her own, possibly with her very own children will she realize. But in the meantime you can have a better relationship. In regards to the God thing, well, I am not one to talk about God so I'll just keep my thoughts to myself. Suffice it to say that she needs to respect your belief system and not shove hers down your throat. And the difficult child situation, well, it is what it is. Are you in any sort of counseling? You may need support JUST FOR YOU in learning how to cope being home alone and caring for yourself for the first time in a longtime, no? I'm sorry mothers day was such a disappointment. Like many of us do, next year plan something special for yourself and then get up and do it. Hugs.[/COLOR] [/QUOTE]
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