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Drama, oh drama! And I have no clue what has really happened, if much anything at all
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<blockquote data-quote="SuZir" data-source="post: 568689" data-attributes="member: 14557"><p>I had a longer chat with him today, mostly about Christmas things but some also about this and how he is feeling. He is quite sheepish over his over reaction. I did tell him again that he can call me if he is distressed, I may not be able to help but I may be able to give him some motherly advises and at least listen. While those calls of course make me feel bad, I would feel worse if he was distressed and with no one to call. I have firmly desided not to get anyway involved with his relationship with his girlfriend, but I had to censor myself quite hard not to say anything about no one having to stand verbal or physical abuse in their own home.</p><p></p><p>difficult child doesn't tell me much about his therapy but I asked if he planned to tell the therapist about what happened after their Holiday break is over and if he think they could work with therapist to develop some strategies to handle the situations where he starts to mull something in his mind and it starts to get bigger and bigger. He said they are working rather intensively with something else now but that he had promised to his coach he would talk about what happened with his mental coach when they meet next time. So at least he seems to recognize this a maladaptive pattern he does have. I think that is a lot considering how un-self-aware (that isn't a word I think, hope you get it anyway. And how I should say that one?) he was for example two years ago or even year and a half. He has come a long way.</p><p></p><p> Part of it is certainly his personality. He has always been one intense, high-strung boy, he will likely always be like that. Some of it is a current situation, it is difficult to struggle with your job, especially when you have so high hopes and have done so much for it. But all that considered he still seems very vulnerable, fragile and emotional. Even when he seems to be doing well (and in many ways he is), it seems that he has to try so hard. I have read, and his psychiatrist did warn him, that trauma therapy can be very hard and can cause a lot of havoc to person's life during it. that things can get much worse before they start to get better, when old traumas are taken out in the open and worked over. I do wonder if part of this; anxiety, being highly emotional, trust issues getting worse, not wanting to be touched etc. are about that and not something that is currently wrong in his world. Maybe some of this is something nothing can be done in this point but just have to be ridden out?</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="SuZir, post: 568689, member: 14557"] I had a longer chat with him today, mostly about Christmas things but some also about this and how he is feeling. He is quite sheepish over his over reaction. I did tell him again that he can call me if he is distressed, I may not be able to help but I may be able to give him some motherly advises and at least listen. While those calls of course make me feel bad, I would feel worse if he was distressed and with no one to call. I have firmly desided not to get anyway involved with his relationship with his girlfriend, but I had to censor myself quite hard not to say anything about no one having to stand verbal or physical abuse in their own home. difficult child doesn't tell me much about his therapy but I asked if he planned to tell the therapist about what happened after their Holiday break is over and if he think they could work with therapist to develop some strategies to handle the situations where he starts to mull something in his mind and it starts to get bigger and bigger. He said they are working rather intensively with something else now but that he had promised to his coach he would talk about what happened with his mental coach when they meet next time. So at least he seems to recognize this a maladaptive pattern he does have. I think that is a lot considering how un-self-aware (that isn't a word I think, hope you get it anyway. And how I should say that one?) he was for example two years ago or even year and a half. He has come a long way. Part of it is certainly his personality. He has always been one intense, high-strung boy, he will likely always be like that. Some of it is a current situation, it is difficult to struggle with your job, especially when you have so high hopes and have done so much for it. But all that considered he still seems very vulnerable, fragile and emotional. Even when he seems to be doing well (and in many ways he is), it seems that he has to try so hard. I have read, and his psychiatrist did warn him, that trauma therapy can be very hard and can cause a lot of havoc to person's life during it. that things can get much worse before they start to get better, when old traumas are taken out in the open and worked over. I do wonder if part of this; anxiety, being highly emotional, trust issues getting worse, not wanting to be touched etc. are about that and not something that is currently wrong in his world. Maybe some of this is something nothing can be done in this point but just have to be ridden out? [/QUOTE]
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