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Drama, oh drama! And I have no clue what has really happened, if much anything at all
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<blockquote data-quote="SuZir" data-source="post: 568860" data-attributes="member: 14557"><p>Relaxation techniques could be something he could use to handle massage therapy. He is quite well versed to use them and his mental coach is working with him to use and benefit more from them. but of course first he would have to admit he is having a problem with massage. Now he is apparently just 'forgetting', that his masseur told him five minutes ago that he wants to see difficult child in his table fifteen minutes from now and somehow disappears. difficult child doesn't acknowledge that he is avoiding getting a massage and while I do see that as an sign of his worsening trust issues and I find that very worrying, especially then, to my knowledge, this people have not done anything to give difficult child a reason to trust them less than before, it is simply not something I want to get involved with. To be honest I don't want to use my Christmas to fight with him over his muscle care. I will leave that to be someone else's headache. I may however pry a little if something has happened that has left him him unable to trust these people. I doubt that though. Of course it can be some vicious cycle that started from something very small, like masseur being little impatient with him in a very bad moment, or something like that. Has happened before and with difficult child things that start from really small can end up big.</p><p></p><p>With girlfriend violent behaviour i really don't know hoe to react. Talking to someone else about it could be easily considered breaking his trust by difficult child. And because they have such a size difference there is always a real risk people would just consider it funny and laugh at him. For some reason violent behaviour in girls is nowadays considered at times almost cute, feisty and almost admirable in our society. And it shows, studies show that nowadays teen boys are much more often victims of relationship violence than teen girls. That violence is not usually that serious, but with adults I think that it was almost half (40 or 45 %) of the serious domestic violence that was committed by women in my country (with serious they mean usually life threatening). Still the public assumption is something totally else. And then there is of course verbal ad emotional abuse. I really didn't like some comments from difficult child's girlfriend I heard during that first phone call. Degrading comments about things that aren't to change (like ethnic background etc.) are just not okay even during the fight. Of course I don't know if this was just a one time thing, I haven't witnessed anything like that between the two of them before. Still don't like it.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="SuZir, post: 568860, member: 14557"] Relaxation techniques could be something he could use to handle massage therapy. He is quite well versed to use them and his mental coach is working with him to use and benefit more from them. but of course first he would have to admit he is having a problem with massage. Now he is apparently just 'forgetting', that his masseur told him five minutes ago that he wants to see difficult child in his table fifteen minutes from now and somehow disappears. difficult child doesn't acknowledge that he is avoiding getting a massage and while I do see that as an sign of his worsening trust issues and I find that very worrying, especially then, to my knowledge, this people have not done anything to give difficult child a reason to trust them less than before, it is simply not something I want to get involved with. To be honest I don't want to use my Christmas to fight with him over his muscle care. I will leave that to be someone else's headache. I may however pry a little if something has happened that has left him him unable to trust these people. I doubt that though. Of course it can be some vicious cycle that started from something very small, like masseur being little impatient with him in a very bad moment, or something like that. Has happened before and with difficult child things that start from really small can end up big. With girlfriend violent behaviour i really don't know hoe to react. Talking to someone else about it could be easily considered breaking his trust by difficult child. And because they have such a size difference there is always a real risk people would just consider it funny and laugh at him. For some reason violent behaviour in girls is nowadays considered at times almost cute, feisty and almost admirable in our society. And it shows, studies show that nowadays teen boys are much more often victims of relationship violence than teen girls. That violence is not usually that serious, but with adults I think that it was almost half (40 or 45 %) of the serious domestic violence that was committed by women in my country (with serious they mean usually life threatening). Still the public assumption is something totally else. And then there is of course verbal ad emotional abuse. I really didn't like some comments from difficult child's girlfriend I heard during that first phone call. Degrading comments about things that aren't to change (like ethnic background etc.) are just not okay even during the fight. Of course I don't know if this was just a one time thing, I haven't witnessed anything like that between the two of them before. Still don't like it. [/QUOTE]
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