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<blockquote data-quote="Star*" data-source="post: 279876" data-attributes="member: 4964"><p>WOw - you guys are really up on whats what. </p><p> </p><p>Lemme see if I can answer some stuff - </p><p> </p><p>Okay when Dude first moved in - the FP told him that he could earn $20 a month if he did chores. This equated for $5.00 a week and Dude said - Nah. I said - do it...he said NO. The chores were listed and well - I wouldn't do that much for $5.00 a week. I would bet that it's supposed to be $20 a week - and someone is pocketing cash. </p><p> </p><p>Also when he first moved in - we were told he was given a new flat screen TV. Saw the box in the living room - assumed it was true. Not. THe FOSTER parents got the new widescreen flat tv - and Dude got their old one. IT worked for about 1 week, then quit and they never replaced it. Thats fine - Dude doesn't watch tv much at all. We never have. And they said they bought him a new PS2 - and that was not true either - they bought a new game system for daughter and live in boyfriend - and gave Dude one they got from the flea market. </p><p> </p><p>I would suspect that the receipts got turned into foster care place (making notes) as part of his "He didn't need clothes - but we got this for him instead." and who would know? </p><p> </p><p>As far as the clothes allowance - they have NEVER bought him clothes. Once they got him a pair of shoes at the flea market, and a hat when they took the family to the beach. They did get him clothes at CHristmas but we thought it was kinda rotten that they bought all this clothes too small and not anything he liked. WHen he didn't wear them - they asked if they could give the clothes to someone else. I suspect this was the plan all along. You don't buy dockers and polo shirts for a kid who has NEVER worn outfits like that since he was 4 years old. (I did dress him very nice) then he figured out his own way - and it's been like that since he was 8. </p><p> </p><p>I think Dude needs to ask the foster care AGENCY what he is supposed to be getting don't you? This would cut out the middle man and crazy neighbor would probably be suspected. I don't care what they think anymore. </p><p> </p><p>As far as group homes "stang" - see this is the problem that we've had in the past. I had the last one he was at shut down because of abuse. I swear I am starting to feel like a crusader. I think I could make a very lucrative living off of the state - driving around and making sure violations and such were addressed. Food, clothes allowance huh? Yeah - well I can tell you some stories about that. </p><p> </p><p>When the system here puts a kid in group home - they place them as FAR away as they legally can. This is done so that the family has hardship about being apart. THe entire idea about group.foster/Residential Treatment Center (RTC) is reunification with family and getting away from poor peer influences locally. These idiots put these kids so far away and in the same places that they make life-long friends with POORER peer influences. Then they all come home, hook up and are buds. We have a friend of Dudes that was placed at the last group home that we shut down - in jail right now for CDV of a high and aggrivated nature, possession of meth, possession of crack - and he told his "babymomma" (hate that phrase) that when he gets out he's coming right to MY house, to MOMMA.....to have me cook him a meal like I used to. I got news for Babydadda.....ain't happening. I don't want him around. I don't want Dude near him either - but idiot Dude seeks out these people and belives the guy when he said CDV of high and aggrivated nature was charged because he was in a car with 3 other boys and they hit a parked car....and the OTHER guys had the dope on them....he ONLYhad marijuana. Funny - no charges for pot. </p><p> </p><p>So while it's a roller coaster for Dude to see that NOT everyone is what they appear or says they are....I guess he's finding out the very hardest way. I know the relationship that Dude had with FP is forever changed. They used to be able to get him to do anything for them. I don't see that happening. And he may not ask for the money for clothes - but when I mention he can get SHOES.....Yeah I think someone is going to be asking for a little more than they had been getting. The gravy train is over. </p><p> </p><p>And p's and q's should be managed......they have a day care with over 50 kids there.....and they are not up to code in the LEAST....but the entire family makes their living off of babysitting out of their home. </p><p> </p><p>The police report was made with the information on my original post. I have not seen it. I have to get either the neighbor to give it to me - (which I don't think she has a problem with) but my problem is that she is a self-medicating with booze and dope BiPolar (BP) person that loves to talk and talk and talk, and I'm a .......hermit who likes her solitude and no drama. Sounds like she has drama at her home all the time. WHile I appreciate what she did - I'm not so eager to strike up any friendship. Know what I mean?? </p><p> </p><p>I think I'll send over a basket of something nice - or a flower in a pot....with a thank you note. I'm really not looking for any new buds...figuratively or literally. </p><p> </p><p>Thanks all - if I didn't answer a question - PM me - I did my best.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Star*, post: 279876, member: 4964"] WOw - you guys are really up on whats what. Lemme see if I can answer some stuff - Okay when Dude first moved in - the FP told him that he could earn $20 a month if he did chores. This equated for $5.00 a week and Dude said - Nah. I said - do it...he said NO. The chores were listed and well - I wouldn't do that much for $5.00 a week. I would bet that it's supposed to be $20 a week - and someone is pocketing cash. Also when he first moved in - we were told he was given a new flat screen TV. Saw the box in the living room - assumed it was true. Not. THe FOSTER parents got the new widescreen flat tv - and Dude got their old one. IT worked for about 1 week, then quit and they never replaced it. Thats fine - Dude doesn't watch tv much at all. We never have. And they said they bought him a new PS2 - and that was not true either - they bought a new game system for daughter and live in boyfriend - and gave Dude one they got from the flea market. I would suspect that the receipts got turned into foster care place (making notes) as part of his "He didn't need clothes - but we got this for him instead." and who would know? As far as the clothes allowance - they have NEVER bought him clothes. Once they got him a pair of shoes at the flea market, and a hat when they took the family to the beach. They did get him clothes at CHristmas but we thought it was kinda rotten that they bought all this clothes too small and not anything he liked. WHen he didn't wear them - they asked if they could give the clothes to someone else. I suspect this was the plan all along. You don't buy dockers and polo shirts for a kid who has NEVER worn outfits like that since he was 4 years old. (I did dress him very nice) then he figured out his own way - and it's been like that since he was 8. I think Dude needs to ask the foster care AGENCY what he is supposed to be getting don't you? This would cut out the middle man and crazy neighbor would probably be suspected. I don't care what they think anymore. As far as group homes "stang" - see this is the problem that we've had in the past. I had the last one he was at shut down because of abuse. I swear I am starting to feel like a crusader. I think I could make a very lucrative living off of the state - driving around and making sure violations and such were addressed. Food, clothes allowance huh? Yeah - well I can tell you some stories about that. When the system here puts a kid in group home - they place them as FAR away as they legally can. This is done so that the family has hardship about being apart. THe entire idea about group.foster/Residential Treatment Center (RTC) is reunification with family and getting away from poor peer influences locally. These idiots put these kids so far away and in the same places that they make life-long friends with POORER peer influences. Then they all come home, hook up and are buds. We have a friend of Dudes that was placed at the last group home that we shut down - in jail right now for CDV of a high and aggrivated nature, possession of meth, possession of crack - and he told his "babymomma" (hate that phrase) that when he gets out he's coming right to MY house, to MOMMA.....to have me cook him a meal like I used to. I got news for Babydadda.....ain't happening. I don't want him around. I don't want Dude near him either - but idiot Dude seeks out these people and belives the guy when he said CDV of high and aggrivated nature was charged because he was in a car with 3 other boys and they hit a parked car....and the OTHER guys had the dope on them....he ONLYhad marijuana. Funny - no charges for pot. So while it's a roller coaster for Dude to see that NOT everyone is what they appear or says they are....I guess he's finding out the very hardest way. I know the relationship that Dude had with FP is forever changed. They used to be able to get him to do anything for them. I don't see that happening. And he may not ask for the money for clothes - but when I mention he can get SHOES.....Yeah I think someone is going to be asking for a little more than they had been getting. The gravy train is over. And p's and q's should be managed......they have a day care with over 50 kids there.....and they are not up to code in the LEAST....but the entire family makes their living off of babysitting out of their home. The police report was made with the information on my original post. I have not seen it. I have to get either the neighbor to give it to me - (which I don't think she has a problem with) but my problem is that she is a self-medicating with booze and dope BiPolar (BP) person that loves to talk and talk and talk, and I'm a .......hermit who likes her solitude and no drama. Sounds like she has drama at her home all the time. WHile I appreciate what she did - I'm not so eager to strike up any friendship. Know what I mean?? I think I'll send over a basket of something nice - or a flower in a pot....with a thank you note. I'm really not looking for any new buds...figuratively or literally. Thanks all - if I didn't answer a question - PM me - I did my best. [/QUOTE]
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