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<blockquote data-quote="Nomad" data-source="post: 317652"><p>Last night was the therapy apt.</p><p></p><p>Within 24 hours of that apt....difficult child got an eviction notice....too weird...too strange....certainly got my attention. </p><p></p><p>difficult child immediately, that night, had loud friends at her apt. and her lease was terminated. </p><p></p><p>She has to leave at the end of the month.</p><p></p><p>husband is confused...I am a little bit.</p><p></p><p>He says the therapist should not have spoken to him in front of difficult child. That difficult child takes this as some sort of permission to behave inappropriately and when it comes to things like a roof over her head, he doesn't like it.</p><p></p><p>I'm not sure...have mixed feelings. It is complicated....to be sure.</p><p></p><p>I DO wish she had said something to difficult child afterward (while in family therapy) to see where her head was at. </p><p></p><p>Bottom line, difficult child is 21 and I don't feel any need to overprotect her. I did somewhat between the ages of 18 and 21, due to some delays, but now....not so much. I might provide some extra assistance due to her disabilities, but I don't see the need to help a person who is not helping themselves. </p><p></p><p>I feel stuck in the middle here....so weird.</p><p></p><p>difficult child has a tiny bit of money and found yet another garage apt...there are plenty here, perhaps due to the economy...but it is in worse neighborhood and smaller. So, her life got tougher due to this bad choice. AND honestly, neither husband or I were willing to give her a cent for a move, so if she didn't have any money she would have had to stay in a homeless shelter or with a friend for a month....she just lucked out...by the skin of her teeth.</p><p></p><p>Not sure what to do about the therapist reprimanding husband in front of difficult child.</p><p></p><p>My only suggestion was for husband to call her and talk with- her when he calms down and to understand that even with this weird event, it is still difficult children responsibility to do the right thing (s) in life.</p><p></p><p>I am tired and a bit confused....so again, should the therapist have been easier on husband or mentioned it privately?</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Nomad, post: 317652"] Last night was the therapy apt. Within 24 hours of that apt....difficult child got an eviction notice....too weird...too strange....certainly got my attention. difficult child immediately, that night, had loud friends at her apt. and her lease was terminated. She has to leave at the end of the month. husband is confused...I am a little bit. He says the therapist should not have spoken to him in front of difficult child. That difficult child takes this as some sort of permission to behave inappropriately and when it comes to things like a roof over her head, he doesn't like it. I'm not sure...have mixed feelings. It is complicated....to be sure. I DO wish she had said something to difficult child afterward (while in family therapy) to see where her head was at. Bottom line, difficult child is 21 and I don't feel any need to overprotect her. I did somewhat between the ages of 18 and 21, due to some delays, but now....not so much. I might provide some extra assistance due to her disabilities, but I don't see the need to help a person who is not helping themselves. I feel stuck in the middle here....so weird. difficult child has a tiny bit of money and found yet another garage apt...there are plenty here, perhaps due to the economy...but it is in worse neighborhood and smaller. So, her life got tougher due to this bad choice. AND honestly, neither husband or I were willing to give her a cent for a move, so if she didn't have any money she would have had to stay in a homeless shelter or with a friend for a month....she just lucked out...by the skin of her teeth. Not sure what to do about the therapist reprimanding husband in front of difficult child. My only suggestion was for husband to call her and talk with- her when he calms down and to understand that even with this weird event, it is still difficult children responsibility to do the right thing (s) in life. I am tired and a bit confused....so again, should the therapist have been easier on husband or mentioned it privately? [/QUOTE]
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