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<blockquote data-quote="Nomad" data-source="post: 317689"><p>Thank you so much for your replies. Honestly, I am in one of those personal mommy places where I just need to talk. Even getting the professional knowledge, doesn't totally help with- that...which I know you "get." And, I am a bit stumped, baffled. Sometimes, there really are no great answers.</p><p></p><p>OH, and you guys should know difficult child is working with- TWO different therapists. One social worker who only helps her find employment. He is wonderful. I mean GREAT. That's all he does. Gives her employment advice and literally takes her and helps her fill out applications. On the positive side, difficult child has been ultra cooperative with him and has done things on her own to find employment.</p><p></p><p>The other therapist is her personal therapist, although we have a family component. husband and I pay for this. She is a mental health counselor and from day one has approached difficult child a little tougher than her former therapist. She gives difficult child "homework" most apts. and by and large, difficult child tries to perform. One thing that has been impressive, is that this therapist seem to help make difficult child make the 'real" decision to get rid of the alcoholic boyfriend and difficult child did actually do this.</p><p></p><p>I think the therapist probably should have had difficult child herself say that it was a personal goal of hers not to be evicted and then explore what she should do or not do to meet this goal.</p><p></p><p>Instead, the therapist kinda focused on husband and that proved to be not the best move.</p><p></p><p>If she was upset with husband,, perhaps she could have figured out a way to say what she wanted to say and then ask difficult child if it was okay if after the session she talk with her father some more about it privately. Instead, she tore into husband and difficult child took this as permission to do what she wanted....and behave inappropriately.</p><p></p><p>Ironically, I don't have huge issues with that since ultimately difficult child is accountable for her actions....but it would have been better (hindsight is 20/20) had difficult child made a personal choice to protect her apt.</p><p></p><p>I can't really say that I'm upset with- the therapist, but I do think she could have handled it better...it was not one of the better sessions and we've had several good ones.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Nomad, post: 317689"] Thank you so much for your replies. Honestly, I am in one of those personal mommy places where I just need to talk. Even getting the professional knowledge, doesn't totally help with- that...which I know you "get." And, I am a bit stumped, baffled. Sometimes, there really are no great answers. OH, and you guys should know difficult child is working with- TWO different therapists. One social worker who only helps her find employment. He is wonderful. I mean GREAT. That's all he does. Gives her employment advice and literally takes her and helps her fill out applications. On the positive side, difficult child has been ultra cooperative with him and has done things on her own to find employment. The other therapist is her personal therapist, although we have a family component. husband and I pay for this. She is a mental health counselor and from day one has approached difficult child a little tougher than her former therapist. She gives difficult child "homework" most apts. and by and large, difficult child tries to perform. One thing that has been impressive, is that this therapist seem to help make difficult child make the 'real" decision to get rid of the alcoholic boyfriend and difficult child did actually do this. I think the therapist probably should have had difficult child herself say that it was a personal goal of hers not to be evicted and then explore what she should do or not do to meet this goal. Instead, the therapist kinda focused on husband and that proved to be not the best move. If she was upset with husband,, perhaps she could have figured out a way to say what she wanted to say and then ask difficult child if it was okay if after the session she talk with her father some more about it privately. Instead, she tore into husband and difficult child took this as permission to do what she wanted....and behave inappropriately. Ironically, I don't have huge issues with that since ultimately difficult child is accountable for her actions....but it would have been better (hindsight is 20/20) had difficult child made a personal choice to protect her apt. I can't really say that I'm upset with- the therapist, but I do think she could have handled it better...it was not one of the better sessions and we've had several good ones. [/QUOTE]
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