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<blockquote data-quote="Nomad" data-source="post: 317761"><p>We too have lost track of the number of times she has moved over the last two years. We think it might be nine times. husband is out of his mind about it all...I mean really forlorn/angry/anxious, etc. Almost all of the times, the landlords have commented that they like difficult child and are willing to put up with her idiosyncrasy's (messiness, peculiarities) but can not put up with her odd friends...mostly that they are VERY loud. I think most of it is that these kids are "strays" and take advantage of her place and either party or just hang out and do what they please. Sometimes, difficult child will leave them at her house and go to another house to get some sleep. Of course, that's when all hexx breaks lose and she'll get an eviction. Sometimes, she'll call husband for help and say things like "I have two people here at my house and can't get them to leave." Two or three weeks ago, she was manic and invited TWO strangers to her place. One had bipolar illness (unmedicated) and one was an alcoholic. Her intention was to convince them to go to AA meetings. They got into a fight and the Landlord was livid....he gave her a warning. She was told not to have ANYONE at her place anymore and for almost two weeks, she didn't. But then she got lonely and was sneeking two friends into her place. We don't know what happened exactly, but after the therapist said what she did to husband, perhaps she had even more friends over or they gave themselves permission to be loud and the landlord said "enough is enough" and told her to get out at the end of the month.</p><p></p><p>Suz,</p><p>difficult child is not open at all to moving into an independent living program. To make matters worse, our community seems limited with reference to them. Either they are for the severally retarded or there are facilities for those with heavy duty substance abuse problems. difficult child actually has a high IQ and is anti drugs. The next city has better facilities/more appropriate ones. We tried getting her in one there, but were turned down. I was sooo desperate, I tried to get husband to sell our house to establish residency there and he refused. </p><p></p><p>Perhaps in time (a long long long time) either difficult child will improve OR she will go to one of those facilities. Something has to change.</p><p></p><p>Daisy,</p><p>difficult child has Bipolar I and ADHD. SHe also had a brain aneurysm that bled as a child...has never been the same since. She does seem to have developmental delays (to a certain extent), but has never been official diagnosis'd with this. difficult child has mentioned recently the idea of coming back home. Sadly, this is not to be...husband has told her he would put her in a homeless shelter first. At first she did not believe him, but I do believe she 'gets this' now. I think this is part of the reason husband is so upset...'cause he realizes how very dangerous this situation is and how we are running out of options.</p><p></p><p>by the way, to give you an idea of how 'rough' our city is, it was voted the second worse place in the country to raise a child.</p><p></p><p>difficult child should be terrified to invite strangers into her home, live out on the streets or in a homeless shelter....yet she continues to play with fire.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Nomad, post: 317761"] We too have lost track of the number of times she has moved over the last two years. We think it might be nine times. husband is out of his mind about it all...I mean really forlorn/angry/anxious, etc. Almost all of the times, the landlords have commented that they like difficult child and are willing to put up with her idiosyncrasy's (messiness, peculiarities) but can not put up with her odd friends...mostly that they are VERY loud. I think most of it is that these kids are "strays" and take advantage of her place and either party or just hang out and do what they please. Sometimes, difficult child will leave them at her house and go to another house to get some sleep. Of course, that's when all hexx breaks lose and she'll get an eviction. Sometimes, she'll call husband for help and say things like "I have two people here at my house and can't get them to leave." Two or three weeks ago, she was manic and invited TWO strangers to her place. One had bipolar illness (unmedicated) and one was an alcoholic. Her intention was to convince them to go to AA meetings. They got into a fight and the Landlord was livid....he gave her a warning. She was told not to have ANYONE at her place anymore and for almost two weeks, she didn't. But then she got lonely and was sneeking two friends into her place. We don't know what happened exactly, but after the therapist said what she did to husband, perhaps she had even more friends over or they gave themselves permission to be loud and the landlord said "enough is enough" and told her to get out at the end of the month. Suz, difficult child is not open at all to moving into an independent living program. To make matters worse, our community seems limited with reference to them. Either they are for the severally retarded or there are facilities for those with heavy duty substance abuse problems. difficult child actually has a high IQ and is anti drugs. The next city has better facilities/more appropriate ones. We tried getting her in one there, but were turned down. I was sooo desperate, I tried to get husband to sell our house to establish residency there and he refused. Perhaps in time (a long long long time) either difficult child will improve OR she will go to one of those facilities. Something has to change. Daisy, difficult child has Bipolar I and ADHD. SHe also had a brain aneurysm that bled as a child...has never been the same since. She does seem to have developmental delays (to a certain extent), but has never been official diagnosis'd with this. difficult child has mentioned recently the idea of coming back home. Sadly, this is not to be...husband has told her he would put her in a homeless shelter first. At first she did not believe him, but I do believe she 'gets this' now. I think this is part of the reason husband is so upset...'cause he realizes how very dangerous this situation is and how we are running out of options. by the way, to give you an idea of how 'rough' our city is, it was voted the second worse place in the country to raise a child. difficult child should be terrified to invite strangers into her home, live out on the streets or in a homeless shelter....yet she continues to play with fire. [/QUOTE]
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