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<blockquote data-quote="lovemysons" data-source="post: 171070" data-attributes="member: 3305"><p>Wyntersgrace, </p><p>Thank you for the hug and am looking forward to getting to know you better...you are very insightful. Yes, I think easy child was being protective of me. She is a caregiver. </p><p></p><p>I hope husband doesn't take too long to adjust either...Next week we will spend at a bowling tournament in Michigan for easy child. husband was easy child's highschool bowling coach the past 2 years and he is very active with her and her bowling in leagues and tournaments. It will be interesting to here how many subtle little messeges that may be exchanged between easy child and her father over this next week. Hugs back to you. </p><p></p><p>Janet....I just adore your candor. You have always been shameless and so open and honest about yourself your life etc. </p><p>Well, since you're giving us a bit more revealing look at yourself, I will too, smile. </p><p>LOL...when I suggested to husband the other day that this may all just be experimentation he was like "OH, so we have options...Have YOU ever experimented with women?" LOL...I had to admit "Yes I have". Of course I was a young girl then and perhaps because of my bipolar was also "Hypersexual" but I did decide by the age of 14 that boys were it for me. It was totally unexpected for husband to hear me admit to my own experimentation, lol. I did tell easy child about this too. Hoping that she would feel comforted in knowing some of my "truth". </p><p></p><p>I don't know if it's based at birth or not....I don't know if husband's and my relationship has contributed, maybe it's a combination of both, maybe easy child will settle on a male after all down the road and MAYBE husband's attitudes will help decide ultimately...I don't know. </p><p></p><p>by the way, husband tells me that the reason he made the comment (I spoke of in Sub Abuse Forum) about my decison making being in question is because of my "mental problems". Because I had Bipolar Psychosis in Feb of 2007 and had to be hospitalized. I now take Abilify and have not had an incident since that time, in fact, I feel more emotionally levelled and balanced than I ever have in my life. But husband holds that against me...he is NOT a caregiver, by the way. </p><p></p><p>How sad that your first girlfriends parents wanted to fix her by sending her to a hospital. easy child was at first concerned that we may "kick her out" because she had talked to some of her new gay friends about their parents behaviors upon learning of their daughters at least one was kicked out of her home and then when allowed to come back home was shunned by family members. </p><p>Another was sent to a boarding school upon "coming out" ...of course my husband sarcastically asked where this boarding school was, the name of it, etc</p><p></p><p>If it were not for AA and Al Anon and the psychotic break I had ect I would not be nearly as "enlightend" as I am today. I felt shame when I "experimented" as a young person afterward, today, knowing so many great people who are gay, I have come to terms with it. I have questioned religion too because of my Psychotic break last year and have really struggled with that one knowing that I may have been deemed "Possessed" etc just 200 years ago. It's so sad when something is scary and unknown to others that they want to destroy it. </p><p>I hope my husband does not seek to destroy the relationship between he and our daughter. </p><p></p><p>Hugs, </p><p>Tammy</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="lovemysons, post: 171070, member: 3305"] Wyntersgrace, Thank you for the hug and am looking forward to getting to know you better...you are very insightful. Yes, I think easy child was being protective of me. She is a caregiver. I hope husband doesn't take too long to adjust either...Next week we will spend at a bowling tournament in Michigan for easy child. husband was easy child's highschool bowling coach the past 2 years and he is very active with her and her bowling in leagues and tournaments. It will be interesting to here how many subtle little messeges that may be exchanged between easy child and her father over this next week. Hugs back to you. Janet....I just adore your candor. You have always been shameless and so open and honest about yourself your life etc. Well, since you're giving us a bit more revealing look at yourself, I will too, smile. LOL...when I suggested to husband the other day that this may all just be experimentation he was like "OH, so we have options...Have YOU ever experimented with women?" LOL...I had to admit "Yes I have". Of course I was a young girl then and perhaps because of my bipolar was also "Hypersexual" but I did decide by the age of 14 that boys were it for me. It was totally unexpected for husband to hear me admit to my own experimentation, lol. I did tell easy child about this too. Hoping that she would feel comforted in knowing some of my "truth". I don't know if it's based at birth or not....I don't know if husband's and my relationship has contributed, maybe it's a combination of both, maybe easy child will settle on a male after all down the road and MAYBE husband's attitudes will help decide ultimately...I don't know. by the way, husband tells me that the reason he made the comment (I spoke of in Sub Abuse Forum) about my decison making being in question is because of my "mental problems". Because I had Bipolar Psychosis in Feb of 2007 and had to be hospitalized. I now take Abilify and have not had an incident since that time, in fact, I feel more emotionally levelled and balanced than I ever have in my life. But husband holds that against me...he is NOT a caregiver, by the way. How sad that your first girlfriends parents wanted to fix her by sending her to a hospital. easy child was at first concerned that we may "kick her out" because she had talked to some of her new gay friends about their parents behaviors upon learning of their daughters at least one was kicked out of her home and then when allowed to come back home was shunned by family members. Another was sent to a boarding school upon "coming out" ...of course my husband sarcastically asked where this boarding school was, the name of it, etc If it were not for AA and Al Anon and the psychotic break I had ect I would not be nearly as "enlightend" as I am today. I felt shame when I "experimented" as a young person afterward, today, knowing so many great people who are gay, I have come to terms with it. I have questioned religion too because of my Psychotic break last year and have really struggled with that one knowing that I may have been deemed "Possessed" etc just 200 years ago. It's so sad when something is scary and unknown to others that they want to destroy it. I hope my husband does not seek to destroy the relationship between he and our daughter. Hugs, Tammy [/QUOTE]
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