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<blockquote data-quote="meowbunny" data-source="post: 171107" data-attributes="member: 3626"><p>There really is a huge difference between those who experiment or are bi or are truly homosexual. Those that are homosexual have as little "choice" in their sexual leanings as we do in hair and skin color -- we can disguise to some degree if we choose, but the basics are always with us.</p><p> </p><p>If you're bi, the odds are it is not genetic. It is an acceptance of sexuality -- yours and others. Some are comfortable going either way, some do it out of curiosity, some do it because they can. Their choice, their life.</p><p> </p><p>If your daughter truly has no sexual feelings towards boys, it is more than likely genetic and there isn't a darn thing she nor you nor your husband can do about it. She may sublimate it -- the boy she was dating for awhile may have simply been a try to conform. Hopefully, she will embrace it and truly accept what she is. Being does not preclude children, a good career or any of the stuff we dream about for our kids -- it just makes their social life a little more difficult. Your husband is not the only one who feels homosexuality is a perversion, against nature, etc. To my mind, the ones who should be ashamed are not the ones who practice the gay lifestyle but rather those who shun those who do. </p><p> </p><p>Now, it is possible your daughter is doing it as a form of rebellion or to get something missing in her home life. From everything you have said about her in the past, however, this doesn't sound right for her. Through all your family has gone through, she has been the who has best survived all of it -- she has lived her life regardless of her brothers or your illnesses. She has loved and been close to her father, so why would she do something to risk losing that love? I'm sure he has voice his opinion more than once in front of her. </p><p> </p><p>So, from what you have said both about her past boy friend and their relationship, her relationship with her father, her relationship with you, even her inner strength, I would guess she is gay because she is gay (i.e., genetic) and not because of her home life. To come out in high school takes incredible strength and courage. There are much easier ways to get through school.</p><p> </p><p>I wish her the very best. She is going to need a lot of support. I hope your husband can get through his prejudices to see that she is still a remarkable young lady of whom he should be extremely proud. She's going to need him, too.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="meowbunny, post: 171107, member: 3626"] There really is a huge difference between those who experiment or are bi or are truly homosexual. Those that are homosexual have as little "choice" in their sexual leanings as we do in hair and skin color -- we can disguise to some degree if we choose, but the basics are always with us. If you're bi, the odds are it is not genetic. It is an acceptance of sexuality -- yours and others. Some are comfortable going either way, some do it out of curiosity, some do it because they can. Their choice, their life. If your daughter truly has no sexual feelings towards boys, it is more than likely genetic and there isn't a darn thing she nor you nor your husband can do about it. She may sublimate it -- the boy she was dating for awhile may have simply been a try to conform. Hopefully, she will embrace it and truly accept what she is. Being does not preclude children, a good career or any of the stuff we dream about for our kids -- it just makes their social life a little more difficult. Your husband is not the only one who feels homosexuality is a perversion, against nature, etc. To my mind, the ones who should be ashamed are not the ones who practice the gay lifestyle but rather those who shun those who do. Now, it is possible your daughter is doing it as a form of rebellion or to get something missing in her home life. From everything you have said about her in the past, however, this doesn't sound right for her. Through all your family has gone through, she has been the who has best survived all of it -- she has lived her life regardless of her brothers or your illnesses. She has loved and been close to her father, so why would she do something to risk losing that love? I'm sure he has voice his opinion more than once in front of her. So, from what you have said both about her past boy friend and their relationship, her relationship with her father, her relationship with you, even her inner strength, I would guess she is gay because she is gay (i.e., genetic) and not because of her home life. To come out in high school takes incredible strength and courage. There are much easier ways to get through school. I wish her the very best. She is going to need a lot of support. I hope your husband can get through his prejudices to see that she is still a remarkable young lady of whom he should be extremely proud. She's going to need him, too. [/QUOTE]
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