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<blockquote data-quote="Star*" data-source="post: 187991" data-attributes="member: 4964"><p>Here are my thoughts - since you asked.</p><p> </p><p>I think leaving current boyfriend IS the crux of this whole conversation. Right now that may not seem like it to her but it is - I'm glad, he's immature and not in my humble opinion an honorable man. Getting away from him IS important. The rest we can fix as time goes by. </p><p> </p><p>As far as Casper? Well, to me since she dated him before, in her mind it probably doesn't seem like she's jumping from boyfriend to Ghostboy. They have history, she's in a relationship without affection, Casper is affectionate - it's what she needed. I think she's allowed current boyfriend to push her self-esteem to non-existance. I think he's mentally abusive. So any person showing her some much needed attention at present is going to work for her -AND if it's a MAN/ghost boy - even better - it still seems in her mind like she is independent and doesnt NEED mommy 100% - backward logic but I feel correct - she's got to hang on to ONE thing she does on her own and that is the person paying her attention. </p><p> </p><p>With kids going back to school and college - I would consider selling her belongings to boyfriend or yard sale vs. Keeping them, moving them, storing them. Do the math - will keeping them for ?? long be cheaper than selling. I deal with a lot of people who MOVE from state to state and all have told me that it would have been BETTER and CHEAPER to sell what they had where they were - not bother with moving, labor, expense because it a.) either reminded them of the time they spent with the person the furniture was housed at b.) it didn't fit their new home and they ended up selling it anyway AFTER hauling, storing and paying those expenses. </p><p> </p><p>I don't know Sallie Mae. I think you can ask Rod Stewart about Maggie Mae. I would call the Sallie Mae foundation and ask to speak to someone SMART. </p><p> </p><p>As far as the lease and the land lady? Since she HAS lived there 6 months - you would have to check local laws for backing out of the lease - BUT I would check with her (if you feel she'll understand) OR go to an atty that knows realestate law and ask him for advice. Personally I would ask her to reassign the lease to the boyfriend, and whomever HE chooses to live with him. I would tell the land lady that you DO have someone to take over for easy child, but you need to NOT hold the lease in YOUR name. Or - if you can afford the $5000 - take a chance that immature boyfriend will stay - pay you the payments, you send them to landlady and when he moves out YOU will be responsible for going there and cleaning/fixing/painting etc. NOT my idea of a fun use of my hours. </p><p> </p><p>My thoughts did go to - if you COULD get her out of that lease and get your money back? use THAT money for an apartment close to your home. </p><p> </p><p>I still think the Spain idea is BRILLIANT - oh what a time to go abroad and learn!!!!! If I were here - I'd tell Casper to wait on me -sell my stuff, go to Spain and find Raoul on one of the beaches.....live her life - and text old ghosty boy. </p><p> </p><p>But I'm an aunt with strong ideas......and where is the dog?</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Star*, post: 187991, member: 4964"] Here are my thoughts - since you asked. I think leaving current boyfriend IS the crux of this whole conversation. Right now that may not seem like it to her but it is - I'm glad, he's immature and not in my humble opinion an honorable man. Getting away from him IS important. The rest we can fix as time goes by. As far as Casper? Well, to me since she dated him before, in her mind it probably doesn't seem like she's jumping from boyfriend to Ghostboy. They have history, she's in a relationship without affection, Casper is affectionate - it's what she needed. I think she's allowed current boyfriend to push her self-esteem to non-existance. I think he's mentally abusive. So any person showing her some much needed attention at present is going to work for her -AND if it's a MAN/ghost boy - even better - it still seems in her mind like she is independent and doesnt NEED mommy 100% - backward logic but I feel correct - she's got to hang on to ONE thing she does on her own and that is the person paying her attention. With kids going back to school and college - I would consider selling her belongings to boyfriend or yard sale vs. Keeping them, moving them, storing them. Do the math - will keeping them for ?? long be cheaper than selling. I deal with a lot of people who MOVE from state to state and all have told me that it would have been BETTER and CHEAPER to sell what they had where they were - not bother with moving, labor, expense because it a.) either reminded them of the time they spent with the person the furniture was housed at b.) it didn't fit their new home and they ended up selling it anyway AFTER hauling, storing and paying those expenses. I don't know Sallie Mae. I think you can ask Rod Stewart about Maggie Mae. I would call the Sallie Mae foundation and ask to speak to someone SMART. As far as the lease and the land lady? Since she HAS lived there 6 months - you would have to check local laws for backing out of the lease - BUT I would check with her (if you feel she'll understand) OR go to an atty that knows realestate law and ask him for advice. Personally I would ask her to reassign the lease to the boyfriend, and whomever HE chooses to live with him. I would tell the land lady that you DO have someone to take over for easy child, but you need to NOT hold the lease in YOUR name. Or - if you can afford the $5000 - take a chance that immature boyfriend will stay - pay you the payments, you send them to landlady and when he moves out YOU will be responsible for going there and cleaning/fixing/painting etc. NOT my idea of a fun use of my hours. My thoughts did go to - if you COULD get her out of that lease and get your money back? use THAT money for an apartment close to your home. I still think the Spain idea is BRILLIANT - oh what a time to go abroad and learn!!!!! If I were here - I'd tell Casper to wait on me -sell my stuff, go to Spain and find Raoul on one of the beaches.....live her life - and text old ghosty boy. But I'm an aunt with strong ideas......and where is the dog? [/QUOTE]
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