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<blockquote data-quote="jbrain" data-source="post: 420011" data-attributes="member: 3450"><p>Janet is right--NY says parents are responsible for their kids til they reach 21. We kicked out my 18 year old daughter and she and her boyfriend went straight to DSS. DSS called me and asked if it was true I kicked her out. I explained that I could not have her in my home because she was flaunting all the rules and also it wasn't safe for my younger daughter. The caseworker explained that they would sue me for child support if E used their services. (I would not have minded that, I could not have her living in our home). </p><p></p><p>She also said that we need only provide the basic necessities and could have very strict rules--if E then chose not to live at home it was her choice. So, I said, "sure, she can come back home", knowing she would not want to return under those conditions and I was right. </p><p></p><p>We consulted with a lawyer before this happened--she and boyfriend spent the summer in New England living in homeless shelters. The lawyer told me to pray she stayed in New England because there is no such thing as emancipation in New York state unless the kid is married or in the military. He said if she moved back to New York we would again be financially responsible for her. </p><p></p><p>So, the upshot is that if you kick your kid out or do not allow them to come back if they leave voluntarily, you can be taken to court by DSS for child support if the kid seeks out services.</p><p></p><p>Good luck, Jena. I do want to say that my dtr and I are very close now--almost 5 years later. She understands how awful she was and has repeatedely apologized. She has really turned her life around but I was not the one who could help her do that. She has an amazing woman friend who is like a mom/best friend to her who was there when E was ready for help. I am so grateful to this friend for all she has done for E.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="jbrain, post: 420011, member: 3450"] Janet is right--NY says parents are responsible for their kids til they reach 21. We kicked out my 18 year old daughter and she and her boyfriend went straight to DSS. DSS called me and asked if it was true I kicked her out. I explained that I could not have her in my home because she was flaunting all the rules and also it wasn't safe for my younger daughter. The caseworker explained that they would sue me for child support if E used their services. (I would not have minded that, I could not have her living in our home). She also said that we need only provide the basic necessities and could have very strict rules--if E then chose not to live at home it was her choice. So, I said, "sure, she can come back home", knowing she would not want to return under those conditions and I was right. We consulted with a lawyer before this happened--she and boyfriend spent the summer in New England living in homeless shelters. The lawyer told me to pray she stayed in New England because there is no such thing as emancipation in New York state unless the kid is married or in the military. He said if she moved back to New York we would again be financially responsible for her. So, the upshot is that if you kick your kid out or do not allow them to come back if they leave voluntarily, you can be taken to court by DSS for child support if the kid seeks out services. Good luck, Jena. I do want to say that my dtr and I are very close now--almost 5 years later. She understands how awful she was and has repeatedely apologized. She has really turned her life around but I was not the one who could help her do that. She has an amazing woman friend who is like a mom/best friend to her who was there when E was ready for help. I am so grateful to this friend for all she has done for E. [/QUOTE]
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