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easy child's party Sunday and 1st time with-s2bx
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<blockquote data-quote="donna723" data-source="post: 105677" data-attributes="member: 1883"><p>Boy, does that bring back a lot of not-so-good memories! But by worrying about my ex being there on different occasions and what <em>might</em> happen, I let him ruin a lot of things for me that should have been happy times! I worked myself up into a real snit before my sons' high school graduation, knowing that his father and the new wife would be there. I got there very early, sat in the front, and pretended that he and "The Bimbo" were invisible! Turned out, he was more interested in dodging me than I was in avoiding him! He still couldn't look me in the eye and didn't want a confrontation - not that I would have done anything like that at my boys' graduation! </p><p></p><p>Then came the BIG test, my daughters wedding! By this time "The Bimbo" had fallen by the wayside (where she belonged!). But I made myself absolutely sick with worry over this wedding, starting about a month before the ceremony. Just knowing that I would <em>have</em> to interact with him kept me up nights. We had had virtually NO conversations since the day he left, several years before. Finally it dawned on me ... I was ALLOWING him to ruin my daughters wedding for me! He had ruined enough things for me in the last 20 years - he WASN'T going to rob me of all of the joy of my only daughters' wedding too! And I started getting this "attitude"! And when we went to the wedding, during all the rehearsals, dinners, and the actual ceremony, I held my head high and pretended he was invisible! I was civil but cool, I only spoke to him when I had too. I didn't do anything that would start tongues wagging or cause a scene - just avoided him as much as I could. And you know what happened? HE was the one who was obviously very uncomfortable and squirming! And I came off as gracious and dignified! And I had WONDERFUL time at the wedding!</p><p></p><p>So just hold your head up high, be above it all - if HE'S uncomfortable in your presence, too bad! Tough noogies! He's the one who should be worrying, not you! And make a vow that you WILL NOT allow him to take the joy out of these family milestones for you! Don't let him do it! Just say, "Enough!" It's not easy but if I did it, you can too! Sending more hugs.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="donna723, post: 105677, member: 1883"] Boy, does that bring back a lot of not-so-good memories! But by worrying about my ex being there on different occasions and what [i]might[/i] happen, I let him ruin a lot of things for me that should have been happy times! I worked myself up into a real snit before my sons' high school graduation, knowing that his father and the new wife would be there. I got there very early, sat in the front, and pretended that he and "The Bimbo" were invisible! Turned out, he was more interested in dodging me than I was in avoiding him! He still couldn't look me in the eye and didn't want a confrontation - not that I would have done anything like that at my boys' graduation! Then came the BIG test, my daughters wedding! By this time "The Bimbo" had fallen by the wayside (where she belonged!). But I made myself absolutely sick with worry over this wedding, starting about a month before the ceremony. Just knowing that I would [i]have[/i] to interact with him kept me up nights. We had had virtually NO conversations since the day he left, several years before. Finally it dawned on me ... I was ALLOWING him to ruin my daughters wedding for me! He had ruined enough things for me in the last 20 years - he WASN'T going to rob me of all of the joy of my only daughters' wedding too! And I started getting this "attitude"! And when we went to the wedding, during all the rehearsals, dinners, and the actual ceremony, I held my head high and pretended he was invisible! I was civil but cool, I only spoke to him when I had too. I didn't do anything that would start tongues wagging or cause a scene - just avoided him as much as I could. And you know what happened? HE was the one who was obviously very uncomfortable and squirming! And I came off as gracious and dignified! And I had WONDERFUL time at the wedding! So just hold your head up high, be above it all - if HE'S uncomfortable in your presence, too bad! Tough noogies! He's the one who should be worrying, not you! And make a vow that you WILL NOT allow him to take the joy out of these family milestones for you! Don't let him do it! Just say, "Enough!" It's not easy but if I did it, you can too! Sending more hugs. [/QUOTE]
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