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<blockquote data-quote="scent of cedar" data-source="post: 602028" data-attributes="member: 1721"><p>Skotti? I would be upset too, if I were mothering someone's child and the parent took advantage of my kindness to fool around. A day or two is one thing, but not as a matter of course. We are the GRANDMOTHERS. This is our time to be special, and to do special things for our grandchildren, so they will remember, and know they are extraordinary people. We are there to help them be stronger, to help them be healthier for having had someone love them so much and take such joy and such pride in them.</p><p></p><p>I have six grandchildren. Two girls, four boys. Off and on, we have raised one or both girls. One time? I tried to register one granddaughter in school? And because I did not have custody, they would not take her. So I had to do emergency home schooling! We did okay, though. Two times, I had to do that, I think. The second time wasn't as scary.</p><p></p><p>Now, where was I? </p><p></p><p>How are you going to handle the situation?</p><p></p><p>***************************</p><p></p><p>Dixie's_fire...a head for chaos. That feels right. I have heard my daughter say things like she wished she could just rest, or that she wished she were "normal." But you are right. Even her normal was never normal. She would mix things up ~ breakfast for dinner, dinner for breakfast. It was never enough just to cook ~ difficult child became a gourmet cook, flaming things and soaking and marinading and buying all kinds of special tools. (She did not learn that from me ~ happily enough, I've never flamed or soaked a thing in my life.) </p><p></p><p>:O)</p><p></p><p>The more I am remembering, the more I see that concept "a head for chaos." </p><p></p><p>difficult child does love flying by the seat of her pants. She can pull off the most amazing things, too. </p><p></p><p>But boy, when she falls....</p><p></p><p>Dixies_fire, I have been so into how awful everything has been that I haven't thought of all those crazy, wonderful, strong things that are true about difficult child too, for a long time. We cannot let her have the kids back yet, of course ~ but I have been so worried about difficult child, or so whacked out over the things she's done and the people she's done those things with that I'd forgotten how much I enjoy her.</p><p></p><p>It's like I have been able to add another facet of who difficult child is to what I know about who difficult child is.</p><p></p><p>A "head for chaos".</p><p></p><p>I wonder whether it is a head for chaos as much as it is that predictable things can be scary, sometimes? Better to shake it up, better to rebel, than to be stagnant.</p><p></p><p>Barbara</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="scent of cedar, post: 602028, member: 1721"] Skotti? I would be upset too, if I were mothering someone's child and the parent took advantage of my kindness to fool around. A day or two is one thing, but not as a matter of course. We are the GRANDMOTHERS. This is our time to be special, and to do special things for our grandchildren, so they will remember, and know they are extraordinary people. We are there to help them be stronger, to help them be healthier for having had someone love them so much and take such joy and such pride in them. I have six grandchildren. Two girls, four boys. Off and on, we have raised one or both girls. One time? I tried to register one granddaughter in school? And because I did not have custody, they would not take her. So I had to do emergency home schooling! We did okay, though. Two times, I had to do that, I think. The second time wasn't as scary. Now, where was I? How are you going to handle the situation? *************************** Dixie's_fire...a head for chaos. That feels right. I have heard my daughter say things like she wished she could just rest, or that she wished she were "normal." But you are right. Even her normal was never normal. She would mix things up ~ breakfast for dinner, dinner for breakfast. It was never enough just to cook ~ difficult child became a gourmet cook, flaming things and soaking and marinading and buying all kinds of special tools. (She did not learn that from me ~ happily enough, I've never flamed or soaked a thing in my life.) :O) The more I am remembering, the more I see that concept "a head for chaos." difficult child does love flying by the seat of her pants. She can pull off the most amazing things, too. But boy, when she falls.... Dixies_fire, I have been so into how awful everything has been that I haven't thought of all those crazy, wonderful, strong things that are true about difficult child too, for a long time. We cannot let her have the kids back yet, of course ~ but I have been so worried about difficult child, or so whacked out over the things she's done and the people she's done those things with that I'd forgotten how much I enjoy her. It's like I have been able to add another facet of who difficult child is to what I know about who difficult child is. A "head for chaos". I wonder whether it is a head for chaos as much as it is that predictable things can be scary, sometimes? Better to shake it up, better to rebel, than to be stagnant. Barbara [/QUOTE]
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