nvts
Active Member
Just about this time last year, difficult child 1 was driving EVERYONE nuts. School, home, neighborhood kids, store clerks, etc. His moods were getting worse and worse, his attitude was unbelievable.
:grrr:
Knowing that transition was a key with him, we checked into EVERYTHING to try and figure out what was going on.
:teacher:
Low and behold, December 26th came along and he was a different kid. Outgoing, funny, conversational, warm and we could talk to him.
:angel:
At bedtime, he told me that he was feeling so much better - I asked him why he was so relaxed. He told me that it was because he saw a Christmas commercial right after his birthday and he was sure that because he'd been so bad all year, he wasn't going to get anything for Christmas and that made him mad.
:hammer:
Since he'd gotten gifts, he decided that he wasn't a bad person after all. Quite an eyeful from an 8 year old.
So here's my question: Could some of us be having a tough time because of our difficult child's anticipating the worst? Not just Christmas, but how many of us are telling them that they'll have consequenses if they don't "whatever"? Could this be "fueling the fire"?
Just curious if anyone else might think this valid.
Beth
:grrr:
Knowing that transition was a key with him, we checked into EVERYTHING to try and figure out what was going on.
:teacher:
Low and behold, December 26th came along and he was a different kid. Outgoing, funny, conversational, warm and we could talk to him.
:angel:
At bedtime, he told me that he was feeling so much better - I asked him why he was so relaxed. He told me that it was because he saw a Christmas commercial right after his birthday and he was sure that because he'd been so bad all year, he wasn't going to get anything for Christmas and that made him mad.
:hammer:
Since he'd gotten gifts, he decided that he wasn't a bad person after all. Quite an eyeful from an 8 year old.
So here's my question: Could some of us be having a tough time because of our difficult child's anticipating the worst? Not just Christmas, but how many of us are telling them that they'll have consequenses if they don't "whatever"? Could this be "fueling the fire"?
Just curious if anyone else might think this valid.
Beth