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<blockquote data-quote="Hound dog" data-source="post: 435521" data-attributes="member: 84"><p>I'm glad you're getting to the doctor. We warrior Mom's have to take care of ourselves.</p><p></p><p>I'd keep a journal of the kids visits with their dad. And I'd jot down any unusual comments ect when they return from a visit. This will help you keep facts straight......and may be enough to get the visitation in a better suited environment for the kiddos at the very least. </p><p></p><p>I had some issues with my easy child similar to yours........and oddly about the same age. easy child started acting up and when I'd correct her, she'd complain that I spent all my time with the younger two and they "got away with everything". Which of course was no where near the truth. They were younger and I tended to treat my kids as individuals. There were the general house rules, but consequences fit the child, what worked with one often didn't work with another. So when she started doing this I started pointing out all the things she was allowed to do because she was older. I told her if she wanted everything "equal" I could easily take those privileges away. It took some talking to her........and some explaining to her on a child's level that her brother had special needs she did not have ect. Eventually she decided it was much better to be the older easy child child as she had much more freedom than they did. lol And being a easy child......she really hated the punishments.</p><p></p><p>Some of that was also some jealousy going on. She felt I spent tons of time with Nichole and not her. Well no. I spent a lot of time with Nichole because Nichole was 4 or 5 at the time and required me to spend that much time with her........while at 11 easy child was pushing for more independence. Then I reminded her that I did all the same things with her at the same age. </p><p></p><p>PCs overall can be easier to work with.......and to talk and explain things too. This worked itself out over a period of weeks. (easy child had to be certain I'd punish her every time, she's a tad stubborn lol )</p><p></p><p>Hugs</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Hound dog, post: 435521, member: 84"] I'm glad you're getting to the doctor. We warrior Mom's have to take care of ourselves. I'd keep a journal of the kids visits with their dad. And I'd jot down any unusual comments ect when they return from a visit. This will help you keep facts straight......and may be enough to get the visitation in a better suited environment for the kiddos at the very least. I had some issues with my easy child similar to yours........and oddly about the same age. easy child started acting up and when I'd correct her, she'd complain that I spent all my time with the younger two and they "got away with everything". Which of course was no where near the truth. They were younger and I tended to treat my kids as individuals. There were the general house rules, but consequences fit the child, what worked with one often didn't work with another. So when she started doing this I started pointing out all the things she was allowed to do because she was older. I told her if she wanted everything "equal" I could easily take those privileges away. It took some talking to her........and some explaining to her on a child's level that her brother had special needs she did not have ect. Eventually she decided it was much better to be the older easy child child as she had much more freedom than they did. lol And being a easy child......she really hated the punishments. Some of that was also some jealousy going on. She felt I spent tons of time with Nichole and not her. Well no. I spent a lot of time with Nichole because Nichole was 4 or 5 at the time and required me to spend that much time with her........while at 11 easy child was pushing for more independence. Then I reminded her that I did all the same things with her at the same age. PCs overall can be easier to work with.......and to talk and explain things too. This worked itself out over a period of weeks. (easy child had to be certain I'd punish her every time, she's a tad stubborn lol ) Hugs [/QUOTE]
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