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Ex is going to IEP tomorrow and I'm nervous
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<blockquote data-quote="Californiablonde" data-source="post: 569031" data-attributes="member: 2196"><p>Well IEP meeting didn't go very well. My ex was furious when he found out difficult child has missed twenty four days of school so far. And then they had her only mainstreamed teacher come in, her foods teacher. Foods teacher reported she's getting an F (like most of her other classes) because she refuses to participate. Teacher reports difficult child refuses to take any notes, plus she has frequent meltdowns and refuses to do work. I was shocked, as was her dad. difficult child loves that class. Can't stop talking about it. And yet she refuses to do any work in there, including cooking. difficult child loves to cook and wants to be a chef. I have no idea why she flat out refuses. And the meltdowns are usually something she only does in her ED classes. Up till now, she's been too embarrased to act out in front of the regular population. Her dad was very pi$$ed off at her. He kept saying difficult child belongs in all regular classes. He has told her on many occasions that her classes are making her "dumb." I think he finally got the picture that difficult child needs extra support for a reason. </p><p></p><p>Ex asked the case carrier to email him every Friday with her attendance and any behavior issues she has in the classroom. So I informed difficult child that her dad will now have weekly reports of her so she needs to start going to school every day or else suffer the wrath of dad. difficult child is not looking forward to going over there this weekend. I am sure dad and stepmom are going to give her hell for her behavior in class. I don't envy her. Oh and after the meeting my mom emailed ex and informed him that the reason why I haven't shared any of difficult child's problems with him is because every time I ask him for help, he gets angry with me and threatens to take the kids away. She told him that he makes my anxiety worse and that's why I kept him in the dark all this time for fear of his reaction. She also told him that difficult child heard his wife say she hated my kids. </p><p></p><p>So far my ex hasn't answered her email. In my opinion, no answer is an admonition of guilt on his part. So anyway that's how the big meeting went. We are not moving schools until difficult child can prove she can make it to school every day and behave better in class. At the new school there aren't any ED classes or teacher's aides so she will need to be on better behavior if she wishes to change schools and be with her friends. That's her incentive so we will see how she does. I also informed her that if she doesn't go to school then she will be getting a probation officer. IF she violates probation she can go to juvenile hall. Hopefully that will put enough scare in her to make her co operate. She hasn't been sleeping well lately (got no sleep at all last night) so this week will be extra challenging. Dad says I can call him in the morning to help get her up so I will be taking him up on the offer if she refuses. So that's how it went. Super glad it's over with and I'm hoping things improve from here.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Californiablonde, post: 569031, member: 2196"] Well IEP meeting didn't go very well. My ex was furious when he found out difficult child has missed twenty four days of school so far. And then they had her only mainstreamed teacher come in, her foods teacher. Foods teacher reported she's getting an F (like most of her other classes) because she refuses to participate. Teacher reports difficult child refuses to take any notes, plus she has frequent meltdowns and refuses to do work. I was shocked, as was her dad. difficult child loves that class. Can't stop talking about it. And yet she refuses to do any work in there, including cooking. difficult child loves to cook and wants to be a chef. I have no idea why she flat out refuses. And the meltdowns are usually something she only does in her ED classes. Up till now, she's been too embarrased to act out in front of the regular population. Her dad was very pi$$ed off at her. He kept saying difficult child belongs in all regular classes. He has told her on many occasions that her classes are making her "dumb." I think he finally got the picture that difficult child needs extra support for a reason. Ex asked the case carrier to email him every Friday with her attendance and any behavior issues she has in the classroom. So I informed difficult child that her dad will now have weekly reports of her so she needs to start going to school every day or else suffer the wrath of dad. difficult child is not looking forward to going over there this weekend. I am sure dad and stepmom are going to give her hell for her behavior in class. I don't envy her. Oh and after the meeting my mom emailed ex and informed him that the reason why I haven't shared any of difficult child's problems with him is because every time I ask him for help, he gets angry with me and threatens to take the kids away. She told him that he makes my anxiety worse and that's why I kept him in the dark all this time for fear of his reaction. She also told him that difficult child heard his wife say she hated my kids. So far my ex hasn't answered her email. In my opinion, no answer is an admonition of guilt on his part. So anyway that's how the big meeting went. We are not moving schools until difficult child can prove she can make it to school every day and behave better in class. At the new school there aren't any ED classes or teacher's aides so she will need to be on better behavior if she wishes to change schools and be with her friends. That's her incentive so we will see how she does. I also informed her that if she doesn't go to school then she will be getting a probation officer. IF she violates probation she can go to juvenile hall. Hopefully that will put enough scare in her to make her co operate. She hasn't been sleeping well lately (got no sleep at all last night) so this week will be extra challenging. Dad says I can call him in the morning to help get her up so I will be taking him up on the offer if she refuses. So that's how it went. Super glad it's over with and I'm hoping things improve from here. [/QUOTE]
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